I just want to add to that our babies don't read the parenting books and they don't *know* how they are being parented. Does anyone remember that show that was on the ABC about the 3 different parenting methods? There was attachment parenting/continuum concept, the Dr Spock method and then the Truby King method. It was a fascinating program to watch and it was really hard to sit through watching the parents doing the Truby King method and how they left their babies to CIO but that is the reality for some families, that is what they choose to do. I'm sure that for everyone of use who felt sad for those kids there would have been others who were watching the Continuum parents, and to a lesser extent the Spockian parents and thinking how wrong it was to do those things. We can't hold it against people because they are not as well read as we are and may not know that some of the things they are doing may not be the best thing for their kids.