There are a lot of "mad parents" out there. Including me. But guess what - when a parent does what works for the child out of love for the child, respect to them. I didn't plan on doing half the stuff I do with Liebs - but it works for him. He whinged in my arms, but screamed blue murder if I put him down and walked away for five minutes. Sure, he cried for a bit - but that's better than me going insane some nights! I do look after my needs as well as his - but I DO prioritise his needs. If I need to go to the doctors, I go. Sometimes with Liebs in tow. He has had to look after me some days. Not what I planned - but it doesn't harm him and does help me. I don't mind helping myself if it doesn't harm my son.

As for the "not interfering with other people" philosophy... I fast forward 20 years. Will my son tell me he wishes someone had interfered? Maybe. I know I wish someone had told my mother not to do CIO with me. I wish someone had told her big age gaps were great! Guess what - unless I have a greater need (rare), my son does not cry without someone to love him. He isn't going to whinge about a sibling being too close to his age! He may disagree with what I do - and does - so we talk about it. I wish my mother had responded to my needs like that. I don't always change, but I do explain my reasoning when I don't, Sometimes it can be something I never thought about that bothers him - I can change. Parenting isn't set in stone.

So long as parents do what they do because they love and respect their children, they can do whatever. Different parenting for different children is fine. It is usually what is best. I fail to see how neglecting a baby's needs is loving or respecting that child though.