Hi girls,
Congrats on the weight loss Amy, keep up the good work and GL to Ash.
I plan to join the gym again once bubs is born, im 67 now and will prob be bout 63-64 after i have her so i'll be needing to kick my junk food habit (maccas is my weakness, lol) and lose 10kg, hopefully the breast feeding will help... it only took me 4 months to lose 12kg with alyssa and i was alot bigger so hopefully it'll take me even less time this time.
Congrats on quiting smoking Taegan, im proud of ya, im not a smoker and never have been but one less smoker makes my lungs feel better. lol.
Brendans Mum- GL at the doc
Retail therapy sounds great but after my big news on Sat im staying away.
On Saturday we spoke with a mortgage broker and he said he'd give us a home loan now, DP earns **** money and im not even working but they would give us one, we are stoked, thrilled, its great news.... although we are not buying yet, we are going to keep saving and wait til end of next yr to buy, DP will have a better paying job or a pay rise by then and i can go back to work part-time. Ooooh so exciting, things are finally coming together.
Only 6 more weeks til my bubs is born, we are all very exciting, especially alyssa, she gives my tummy kisses everynight and tells Charli she loves her and cant wait to meet her....
Bought Alyssa a preschool activity book the other day and im a soooooo proud of her, i know she is smart for her age but she if flying through this book with ease, my clever lil chicken is getting big and smart.
Well im off to vacume and fold washing, then i might have a nap
That's great news Kirra. Im on the other end, I wish my mum would get off my back about us buying a house. Anthony isn't on the greatest salary and we'd be taking more than 50% a fortnight to pay off a loan. There is no way I am doing that. I refuse to pay anymore than 30% of what we earn on our housing. We're going to save up for as long as possible and get a huge deposit before we buy.
Just wish people would stop calling rent money dead money, because what the heck is interest?
Lol, anyway, good luck with the impending labour and birth
My mum guessed (i got twnety questions when i was quiet on the phone) so I'm not sure
Do you plan on telling her over the phone or in person?
Do you want it to come across as scared and fearful or would you like to feel confident about it?
If you wangt to show her from the start that you're happy and you have made this decision consciously (rather than fearing what she might say) you could buy her a fridge magnet or something that says "What happens at Grandma's stays at Grandma's" Do your brothers have any children or is the the first grandchild?
i was planning o tell her in person as i live with her, im not sure what i want it to come across as i just want her to know, my oldest brother has 2 kids and my middle brother and his first gf got pregnant twice but decided not to continue with the pregnancys, and so im scared
If it was me, I would try and say something that acknowledges that you know she will disappointed (because it seems inevitable, right?), but right now you are scared, and you need her support. She can be as mad as she likes, but you need HER and only she can support you the way you might need at the moment.
Sorry no ideas, but when I told my mum I only found out a week after getting a new tattoo on my leg and I told her at christmas. I said "oh look at my tattoo. do you like it? blah blah blah. Im pregnant. I like the blue in it, it took ages to get done blah blah blah" The the visitors turned up so she didnt say anything LOL I was scared to tell her because everything Id ever done was wrong or a mistake in her eyes, and it still was up until Maddie was born & now she's had a complete turn around now that she's seen I can cope and I dont need help.
Best of luck.
thanks for that i think im just gonna have to spit it out perferably when there is nothing she can throw at me is around, my partner thinks we should take her out to dinner so she cant go nuts
Dinner is a nice idea I think. She might walk out though, which i guess is better than creating an argument, but you might be better in an evironment where she will talk? You never know she might be really good about it... i hope so!
LEt us know how things go, will be thinking of you.
I can't help but laugh at taking her out to dinner so she cant go nuts, prob cause that wouldnt stop my mum. lol
I sat down and told my mum i had to tell her something, then i went really quiet and she asked what it was, i said promise you wont yell at me first and then she guess first go i was preg. Not to scare you, she didnt yell at me but she did tell me i was terminating whether i liked it or not. I had seen my doc before i told her and my doc knows my mum so well she told me to decide what i wanted to do before i told my mum cause we all knew what she was gonna say.
I like Ash's idea about the fridge magnet but obviously its not gonna work so well if she already has grandkids. Maybe you could buy something (lil jumpsuit) and leave it in plain view where she will see it. Sorry im really bad at this, i was scared like you, but the quicker you get it over and done with the better it will feel. Think of it like a band-aid.
I just told my parents over the phone.Dad was really excited but mum just went silent.I was going 'Mum,Mum;Mum did you hear what I said?" down the phone and eventually she said 'I just have to process this Laura" she was shocked but ultimately happy.
Good luck.In the end she is your mother and will always love you and get over it.
im not so sure about that laurab, i think i should see the doctor and get that all out of the way thantell her and i think it would be better if i told her coz she really will have a cow if there is a jumpsuit sitting around and my partner lives with us so he is expecting to get kicked out but if he goes so do i. coz we have some friends that have said we can stay with them if we need to. i wont tell her till next week sometime, i nearly told her this morning but i want to know how far along i am before telling her, im sorry if i have so many questions i just need reassurance and i havent told any of my friends yet
Def go and see your doctor first, didn't realise that you hadn't yet.Get a blood test and find out exactly how far along you are.
Such a hard situation for you.Best of luck, it will all work out in the end.x
wow so many good respones, i have no idea what to say, it is a hard one but the girls are right, go to the doc and then tell her, best to get it over and done with otherwise you will stress yourself out and thats not good for you and the bub. my mum wasnt happy either and wanted me to get a termination but i told her that this is my life and somewhere along the way i have to learn to make my own decisions and mistakes. in the end, when that baby is born she will never want to turn her back on you. good luck!
I just handed mum the test the first time. I was terrified, but I had to do it.
The second time (DD1) I didn't tell her I knew. I let her guess after telling her I thought I had a tummy bug & she took me to a womens health clinic thing to find out together. I didn't really have to tell her then.
I was living out of home with DH by then.
The first time i found out i was pg, 18, i wasn't living with my mum and i rang her balling my eyes out and told her my period was late. She drove in and stayed with me 1/2 the night for comfort. It ended in termination. With Brendan i rang her and she was at a function to which she shouted out to everyone that she was going to be a grandma! I was 20.
I suggest a blood test too.
AFM, didn't get into the dr, my usual one wasn't there... making an appointment with a local dr hopefully for monday!
My first ended in termination too. My mum wasn't so nice. She pretty much forced us into it. She was on our backs & a total b*tch til we gave up to get her off our backs. We were living at home then so it was hard.
She also wanted to terminate DD1, but we were out of home then so I stayed away from her.
It wasn't the best reaction. She's over it now. Sorry to share a horror story, but hopefully your mum is Ok Princess.
Ask every question you need to. Make sure you do. It's not easy, but it'll be easier if you know all you can.
i had just moved out of home and was living with DP and was three hours away from family so i rung them, dad was like oh well this kinda **** happens in life and we have to take it, so he was quite good, mum was like you need to think of the rest of your life, and she suggested i get an abortion, billy's mum had him at 20 and said that we had to get an abortion, she wouldnt say that now! she loves maddie, and billys dad was over the moon. ok there is my little story lol.
i bet so many of us are glad that we didnt listen to our mums for the reason that we might not have our children today, although we will never let our kids know not to listen to us sometimes lol.
I was 20. 
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