Lil-chookie i am so sorry that no one has been able to offer you any advice I remember your adoption journey and then the decision to start ivf.... i cannot personally relate to your set of circumstances but i can relate to the emotionally charged journey you are on and for that i sympathise. Please re-consider leaving the site, there are so many people here who i am sure have been through similar thing but have not yet read your post. Many times my threads have been missed and i just assume perhaps no one could relate, not that it wasn't important enough to be acknowledged. I wish i could write more but having a BFN today am not in the best spirits myself!