Hi there

The replies that you've received have offered heaps of great things that can help you, I just thought I'd offer something from a slightly different perspective.

I can hear really clearly that you really want to be able to help your DW to deal with what she is going through. Do you think she may be in interested in joining BellyBelly as well? There is so much support here for everyone in lots of different ways that can make all the difference for an individual. There may be something/support here that is useful for her also.

The main reason I suggest it is that sometimes it can relieve huge amounts of pressure - pressure in a relationship and personal pressure and expectations, and how these two co-relate - just to know that there are people out there that understand what you are going through because they are experiencing similar, in similar circumstances. It helped relieve a great deal of pressure for me when I joined in the BellyBelly forums.

To share with you my own point of view with my relationship with my husband, DH has tried many things to help at times when I have been feeling really very low, but the best thing from my perspective that he has done to help me is to simply accept that it's happening, there isn't a lot that can be done to fix it when the drugs and the TTC rollercoaster make you feel like you're at rock bottom, and just to ride through it with me, so we are riding it together.

I hope that knowing that there are people here (many!) that get where you're coming from and understand some of the pressures you are going through is helping you and please try not to put too much pressure on yourself. You are experiencing TTC also, and it's important that you look after yourself just as much as your wife needs tender care during the journey.

Best wishes,

Miss C