I have been reading these posts with interest, and I just wanted to pop in and say that I think your wife is lucky to have such a lovely and caring DH

Speaking personally, the physical closeness of sharing affection is a very important part of my relationship with my DH and it has been very important to continue to be affectionate with each other through the AC process. I'm not talking about sex, although that is part of it, but more the little everyday spontaneous gestures like holding hands, cuddling, kissing and talking. My DH has been fabulous when I've been stressed out about the cycle, even those times when I've been a complete raving lunatic from the hormones, just a small touch or a cuddle calms and soothes me and helps in ways that he'll never know.

I don't know how your wife responds to affection, but my advice is to continue to show your affection in those small ways, ie. a kiss hello and goodbye, a cuddle before going to sleep. I think it's important to continue those rituals as a way of reassuring each other and keeping a sense of normalcy through such an incredibly stressful time.

That's my two cents worth anyway I hope you are able to weather this difficult time together and come out the other end stronger and closer.

Vicki