Hi VelociRaptor

I hope things are improving for you and your wife. I felt very touched by your story and your courage to ask for help in a forum with few male voices. I have been through one IVF cycle so far but my husband and I have been TTC for over 18 months (including going through a miscarriage). While we haven't faced relationship issues, I know what a deeply sad and bewildering experience it is for both.

It seems you are doing what you can to support you wife in a difficult time, and I encourage you to make sure you have people who support you as well. I think its important to have someone other than ones partner to talk and download fears and frustrations to - I know from experience it's sometimes too much for the husband/wife to handle, particularly if they are on the edge as well.

Wishing you all the best