I'll be the first to admit that when I was right in the middle of it, I had good days and bad days too. Very bad, very dark days, in fact. The longer I was TTC, the more of those days I had too. Days when I not only didn't want to talk about my cycles, I didn't want to talk, period. Not about anything. Not to anyone.

It was such a difficult thing, being infertile. It still is, despite me having 'graduated' over 3 years ago, and having no desire to have more children. Sometimes there is nothing you can do or nothing you can say that will be okay to someone going through this, and that's the honest truth. There is no magic set of words that will be 'just right'. Sometimes no such words even exist.

The best advice I can give when you find yourself in that position is to not take it to heart if you can. I know it's hard and it's awfully confusing and difficult for you to be put in that position. But the only way I can explain it is that the sadness is so consuming sometimes, it's hard for an LTTTC to be 'polite' and smile and talk naturally when all they feel is despair. Just know that they need their space, and they will return to you when they feel better. And that in the back of the minds, they appreciate the good friend you are simply for understanding.

hun. And you ARE a good friend.