Been there done that plenty of times to, I think it's important if it is one you really can not get out of going to to try and get yourself in the best headspace before the event easier said than done I know!! I don't really have any tips except I know over the past two years TTC I have surprised myself at the best of times coping when I did not think I would, It does not mean I did not go home after and fall apart sometimes but I still managed to keep myself together for the shower and for my friends really as at the end of the day it is not their fault we are having trouble TTC and I looked a little bit at the fact I would want them at my baby shower when it is my turn, just as they want me at theirs now.