I have really learned a lot about you in your stories. You join a forum halfway through and you never know what the others have been through. My story isn’t a long one compared to some others but here it is.
In 2000 I married my first husband I knew it was a big mistake then but did it anyway. We had been trying for 2 years to get pregnant with out much success. I had never had a regular AF. I was 21 and didn’t “know” how to get pregnant IYKWIM. By the 2 year mark I was pretty frustrated and I did think to myself “hmm maybe something is wrong”. I don’t know why I did a HPT but I did and it came up + straight away. April 2001 my DS was born.
I did briefly go back on BC after DS was born but I wanted my children to be close together. So I went off of the pill and pretty much straight away I was pregnant with DD. November 2002 DD was born. I had no problems in my pregnancies. I had small 6 pound babies both born naturally.
Long story short I left my then husband and met my now fantastic DH. We were married July 2009. DH doesn’t have any children and I always knew he wanted them so we decided to go off of BC and “see” what happens. That was the February 2009 before we were married.
As I mentioned I’ve never had regular AF so I figured I needed to have a pap smear (I was over due by about 5 years) and I thought I might discuss with him about my failing to get pregnant and my irregular AF (10 years late). That was roughly 6 months after stopping BC. It was the June of 09.
He sent me off for BT and a dildo cam. Bloods came back as “highly suggestive” of PCOS. Dildo cam came back inconclusive. The sonographer (?) didn’t look for cysts she focused on some rather large veins I have on my ovaries (which 7 months later I found out to be perfectly normal for someone who has had children). So right up until Feb 2010 I was never confirmed as having PCOS.
Any way my GP referred me to an OB/Gyn and I met with her the following July. Right before our wedding. She looked at my bloods and prescribed me clomid that very day. Lucky for me I had my Af and I could start it straight away. So we got married and we were due to O on our honeymoon.
Moving on 4 cycles later and no pregnancy. So Ob/Gyn books me in for a laparoscopy. We had to put it off until the January as PHI didn’t kick in till then. She said I was to keep up the clomid to keep my cycles regular and if we get UTD then fantastic but if not then the lap it was.
So cycle 5 I think I may have had a chemical pregnancy as I got a + HPT on an IC but not on a crystal clear. I figured at the time it may have been an evap line. But now I think it wasn’t. Then we come to cycle 6 and at the end of this cycle I was due for my lap. I had to put off the lap till the beginning on February as I O’d late (which is why I think I had a chemical) and the lap was booked in my TWW and if I was UTD that would not have been good. So 30th January Af arrived. That was a Saturday and the following Monday 1st Feb 10 was my lap. Keep going with the clomid.
Laparoscopy went fine all clear in the pelvis area, tubes are, clear little bit of endo on the outside of my uterus but overall no problems. Was told to keep going with the TTC .
I had also booked an appointment with QFG on the 17 (I think) of Feb so we go along to see Dr De Ambrosis and get our options. DH and I come away with a plan and now we have to wait the dreaded TTW out. I was 4DPO when we saw Dr De.
The end of my TTW was up and I had been HPT’ing since 9DPO with faint BFP’s. so it looked like we wouldn’t need other options. Yay!
So we go to my regular Ob/Gyn for my post op appointment and tell her the good news. I was 6weeks 3 days at that appointment and heard the heart beat and DH was very excited as you could imagine. We made an appointment for 4 weeks time. So we walk out of there with plans to be made and excited for the 12 week scan to see Cleatus (DH named our bub) on the screen.
4 weeks later and we sit in the waiting room all excited and anxiously waiting. We were by that stage 10 weeks 3 days. She gets us in the room and she says lets have a look at bub. So I lie on the bed and she gets the ultrasound and then she say’s it doesn’t look good. There is nothing in the sac and definitely no heartbeat. She sends me off that very afternoon to get another urgent scan to confirm her diagnosis and the sonographer repeats her words Blighted Ovum. She left us alone for a bit and I had a cry. I couldn’t believe it. I had absolutely no clue. No bleeding, no cramping, nothing.
So we head back to Ob/Gyn and I’m booked in the very next day for a D&C. That was that absolute worst day of my life. I was supposed to be 10 weeks 4 days and looking forward to our 12 week scan and to tell all the family our good news. But no I was having my baby ripped out of me. And just to add insult to injury the nurse who was looking after me after the D&C was having a conversation with other staff members outside of my curtain about her 10 week pregnancy! She was describing how big the baby was, how much amniotic fluid it was in etc…. To me it felt like hours but in reality it was more like 5 mins. My world had just fallen apart and I had to stay and listen to that?
Any way fast forward to today and I’m anxiously waiting for AF post D&C so I can start clomid again while we wait to start IVF at the end of June.
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