Wow what a thread. I just read of all your stories and my heart breaks for everyone of us who has been handed this crap run in life but I am also amazed at the strength and resilience which is so evident with everyone of you ladies.
Murraycod - hang in there darl I know it's hard!
Ok so here goes - I will try and make our story as short and sweet as possible. We started TTC in late 2002 and because my Mum had issues (adopted both my siblings due to infertility) and then fell with me when my sister was 13 mths old, I always knew it may take us awhile. After 11mts with no luck first FS apt who said we were overreacting and to come back in 6 mths and he bet we would be preg. We are now on our 4th FS and have had several fresh and FET's with many resulting in chems. Our first clinic only did qualatative tests so you only got a neg not a HCG level so not exactly sure how many of the early ones were chem. I know over the years I've had loads of chems because I had all the symptoms and AF would be a few days late and then bam show up in full force. Thankfully we have no probs making embies they just won't stick.
In Dec 05 I decided I couldn't take anymore so we investigated adoption. We started the process Jan 07 and we are still waiting. It will be at least another 2 years before we receive our allocation but I will not go into too much detail as you are not allowed to continue IVF whilst waiting (which is ridiculous). But hey we need to do something to pass the time hey! Anyway in Oct 08 I started looking into surrogacy in India as we had just found out the intercounty adoption waiting times had blown out bigtime and we decided we should look at other options. We had some embies on ice at a clinic so decided to do PGD to rule out any genetic issues which came back fine and transferred the one which made it through only to get a chem again. We booked India and left in Feb 09 thinking that we would be lucky and get pregnany first go with twins. I started my cycle here and had EPU in Mumbai. The docs were all fantastic and the facilities great. We met our surrogate and her family which was just incredible, did the transfer and flew home so excited about getting the phone call to say we would be parents. Well best laid plans and all......it didn't work and we would go on to have three more attempts with FET's, working with two wonderful surrogates and then one last try with donor embies. So all up 5 goes and no luck. It was a crap year to say the least and I found myself so down and depressed by the end of 09. There have been many, many couples who we met and spoke with who have gone onto have beautiful babies so with us I can't say why but we just have really bad luck I guess.
I saw the 60mins interview with Dr Sacks late in 09 and decided to look into NK cells with him and it came back that mine were in fact high so here we are hoping that the treatment with prednisolone will do the trick.
We all deserve to be Mum's - with biological means, surrogacy or adoption, and I hope and pray that everyone here achieves that dream really soon.
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