Hi,

I've put them into catergories: general, and those specific to donor conception

General:

- You need to relax (because infertility is such a relaxing thing)
- Have you tried something relaxing like meditation? (yes I have, but I AM still allowed to have bad days)
- Have you tried herbal remedies and acupunture (yes I have, but I found the practitioner was being fast and loose with the truth, so I stopped)
- You need to cope with seeing other people with children - particularly around Christmas (actually, no I don't, and neither does my DH)
- When a child is in the room "Oh, aren't you clucky" - this was said to my DH on Friday.
- You know that having a child is a big change in your lifestyle (really? don't you think I've noticed sleep deprived friends?)
- you know having children is not all it's cracked up to be (especially from people that have more than one. I generally point out this irony.)
- concentrate on your career (or other things) and it will all just happen (well, not in our case)
- have you thought about giving up work (and what, go completely insane with worry at home?? how am I going to PAY for IVF).
- be grateful for your family, friends and animals (because I'm an ungrateful person if I don't??)


Donor Conception:

- Have you thought about adoption? (why, because it's easier - not!)
- Are you sure your DH is going to cope with having someone else's child? (no, he will be the father to his own child)
- Won't the SD want the child once it is born? (well actually he has assured us that he will never interfere)
- Isn't infertility herititary (from a science teacher!!)
- How will your family cope (isn't that their problem??)
- You have a great marriage, be happy with that (what, because we get on well we have no right to have a child??)
- DH has so many problems, won't you be adding to it? (this really goes down well with my DH)
- it's morally wrong to use DI.

And the best one...
- wouldn't it be better for the child to not know that they were conceived through DI (not from the research I've read, no)

Grr...