As there are equally ignorant and annoying things people say when you ARE pregnant ("what cravings have you had?" "a craving to be rid of your company"), or even when the child arrives ("is he good?" "No, he's awful, where's the receipt?"), I am rolling my eyes with you, and clenching my fists on your behalves!
However, I would like to know what you would like to hear, that does not involve denying the existence of my own child and pretending he's not there. I'm not really the type of person to patronise someone, especially to the extent of just pretending there isn't an issue, so what is a tactful acknowledgment of your situations, without saying something dumb?
Also, next time someone asks something dumb of Oscar and I feel myself bristling...I'll take a chill pill and think of you guys who put up with far more ignorance!