Hi everyone,

I forgot another one I was asked very early when DH was not coping with his diagnosis and didn't want to have children:

- so will you be leaving him/ getting a divorce? That really hurt, as it was as if I had to make a choice between the man I love and wanting to have a child.

The other one is also about age ie I am 37. I get it two ways - I am older and should be thinking that it's not going to happen OR there are women older than me that have fallen. Not terribly helpful either way...

Expat - I don't think it's fair though that you are sitting in a room and can't even rub your tummy if you wish to or talk about your own experiences of pregnancy. BW is right, all we need is some understanding and empathy at times. But we can still feel joy when close friends of ours are pregnant - maybe you need to have a girls night and talk about how you are feeling, particularly the guilt - I'm sure not one of them would want you to feel that way.

IK I LOVE your sense of humour and I'm going to steal that 'craving' line and 'reciept' line should I ever fall!! Brilliant! As for your question I think BW covered it. I like people being straight with me, but not hurtful.