Oh Ryn,

What is up with him? So he resorts to name calling when you ask him to do something. What if you called him an a@sshole next time he asks you to clean up? He isn't playing fair, in my opinion and name calling never helps anyone. Good girl for sticking to your guns and making him clean up.

OK, now for a little reality check: you don't just need him to be helpful and understanding towards you and the baby during the first few days post-birth, you need it for the next 10+ years. Also, try and get use to dust and dirt around the house - trust me on that one. With 3 kids under 7, our house stays clean for about a nano-second after the cleaners leave. I can almost remember a time pre-kids where you clean a room and it stays that was for a day or so (I sometimes fantasize about this ). With kids, it is a whole new world.

I agree with a couple of previous posters in that you need to teach him how to treat you. Calling you a ***** because you requested some help is completely unacceptable.

Also, after baby comes, make sure you leave bub with him for an extended period during the day (subject to breast feeding) so that he gets the idea that taking care of a baby is pretty full-on. Then when you get home ask him why dinner wasn't made and why the house isn't clean (just kidding, sort of). Finally, tell him NO MORE CAKES UNTIL YOU PULL YOUR FINGER OUT AND TREAT ME WITH RESPECT!!!

Just out of curiosity, what does your family think of him?