Ryn

You need to sort this out now, it will only get worse when you have a newborn trust me I am there at the moment and am struggling and DH is helping me a bit.

I too got whinged at for not having dinner ready when I was tired and pregnant, I tried my best but sometimes it just cant be done as I wasnt feeling well, and especially later towards the end of your pregnancy it will be harder. We got a cleaner I couldnt do this as well it was all too hard, if you can afford it can you get one? This does lighten the load of chores.

When you are home just after giving birth is he going to take time off work to help you and your little one settle in? I hope so. And that he helps you out by making you cups of tea and getting food for you while you are busy looking after and feeding your little one. This is very important as you will feel you need support when you first get home as feeding and taking care of the little one is overwhelming to say the least and then comes all the hormones also. I have a c/s scar im still recovering from 2 weeks later and DH has to do all the washing, pick things up off the floor cause I cant bend, pack the dishwasher, lift Julia for me when I cannot get up fast as my scar hurts and also he needs to have time with her also. I also need water while im feeding otherwise im parched. Will your DH understand that you will need his support? You need to make this clear to him. Re the maternity leave, I wouldnt give him any definate answer I think what you are saying now is good and leaves things open for you. My thoughts are with you, I understand how stressed you must be. Sorry if I rambled on.

Bel
xxx