Ryn how about some books for him to read? Do you reckon he'd read them?

I think the other girls are right in what they are saying, but I know you know your husband best of us all.

You said;
I can't believe what other husbands do, so I doubt my DH will!


When I got pregnant the first time, the first thing my husband did was buy an air conditioner because we live in a very hot climate, the second was hire a house cleaner for fortnightly trips. In return I hired a gardener to mow the lawns. The third was he got books out about becoming a father, and what it means to be involved in the home life. He has always done a minimum of 1/3 of the house duties. Floors, dishes, cooking etc. I am particular about cleaning the bathrooms & clothes but he shares with everything else. Nowadays during this pregnancy he probably does 2/3 of house chores. Sound unbelievable? He's super husband... but I know that and tell him that everyday.

But I have to say, if you don't expect it of him, he can't expect it either. As far as relationally goes something HAS to happen. You will not be able to live under these expectations, and if you do you will be on a fast tract for unhappiness.

I don't know, but I do know that most people can be reasonable when you sit down and talk with them about expectations and what you expect from each other in a relationship & as a parent. BUT maybe he would be better if he heard it from other men?

There are some amazing books out for men in regards to what it means to be a man. Some of these books have changed my husband's view on a lot of things & I thought he was pretty special beforehand. One is Wild at Heart a Christian book but really amazing when read in the context of becoming a father. Others by Steve Biddough are amazing too but they have more to do with parenting than being a husband/father/man.