From what I understand, as I have been fortunate enough not to have had a loss, it gets harder as time goes on from the birth & loss. I know my friend who lost her bub last September due to placental abruption (at term) had heaps of support in the days / weeks following her daughter's death, but now not so much. Even I can see it on her memorial website that there are few comments these days. I think about mum & bub lots even though she is living halfway across the world at the moment. So I go to her website & post when I think of it. I sent a message at Christmas time & probably will do another one on her 4 month angel-versary later this month. Mum always sends me an email to thank me for remembering her baby girl.

So what I'm saying in a long winded way is that it's not too late. Even sending her a card on their first anniversary wouldn't be too late. She is always going to be living with the loss of her precious boys so will always need comfort. The only difference is right now it is very raw & later on it won't be quite so hard.

As for what to do, I sent a friend an in memory guardian angel pin when she lost her bub early on. For the one I just mentioned, a group of friends together organised a star to be named in baby's honour. Anything you can think of will be perfect.