As many women have said too often the loss of a baby is ignored or just brushed off as an 'oh well' moment. No one acknowledged our little angel but what DH and I did was found jewellery online. I got a heart pendant with tiny little foot prints and babes age engraved in it, it has 2 gems- one the birth month our little one was due and a gem to assist in healing. DH has a keychain with the footprints and age, which he can carry everywhere. I dont know if thats something you want to do but it has been a really lovely thing for us, we are able to have our 'babe' with us at all times.
Please dont take lightly, what a wonderful person you are....the caring and love you are showing for your friends isnt seen often enough.
That was such a wonderful thing for you to do. No one ever acknowledges my little angels. It's an 'Oh well" and "if I don't mention it it never happened" thing amongst my family.
I just lost my 6th angel last week, and no one we had told even said how sorry they were for us... they didn't say anything... but a friend asked me round today so that our DS's could have a playdate, and I told her what had happened, and she just gave me a big hug (she's not one to give hugs, ever... so it was a big thing). The best thing was she has had a m/c before, so she knew what we were going through. It's so nice when someone is there to just give you a hug or tell you that somehow everything will turn out ok, even if you don't believe it at the time.
It's the acknowledgement of the angel baby that means everything.
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