i know that everyone is different but when i lost Kyarna it seemed that most people ignored me and the fact that my baby was gone and that hurt. Even now 3 months later it seems that everyone has forgot that she was ever here. For me you couldnt hurt me by mentioning or reminding me of my baby becasue to be honest i think about her all day everyday anyway
I think you should do something for her, it doesn ahve to be big just a card or something to let her know that you care too!
oh by the way, you sound like an amazing person!!!