I don't want to open the wounds, but... (advice?)

[Glamourcide]

Thanks so much for your advice, ladies. I can definitely understand why friends tend to avoid the topic, it's such an incredibly painful one, but I do want this lady to know that I care very deeply and am so saddened by the loss of her two little princes. There are some wonderful, wonderful gift/rememberance ideas here and they've definitely inspired me - so thankyou I think I'll probably stick with something small because I'm thinking of writing her a card/note and leaving it with her workmate (the mutual friend who I spoke to today) to pass onto her when she gets back, as I don't know when she will be home and I don't know her address (and obviously including my contact details in the note so she can come to me if she feels comfortable discussing such a personal thing with me). I'm not sure if she wears a Pandora or similar bracelet but maybe some pendants/charms that she can put on a chain to wear around her neck or something - teddies, angels, baby-themed things...

Thanks so much for the reassurance... I just don't want to hurt her any more than she already is, but it really makes sense that it helps in some way to know that others care and are hurting for you, instead of just avoiding it altogether. I appreciate your thoughts