Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

[Nicambhar]

Mumstar - 16weeks, OMG, that is absurd.. No wonder you are feeling anxious about TTC. Don't be sorry about ranting, we are here to support each other.. I really hope the Vitex works soon for you.

Sheree - I see that you are a year older than me, my DP will be 40 next December and he doesn't want to become a new dad any time after that.. I understand where he is coming from and there isn't anything that I can do about it so I think that I am at the point of what happens is it for us.. I think I am feeling less pressure atm because we have sold our house and are going to build another one, so have just so much more on my mind than TTC... I hope that you are feeling better than yesterday.. xx

[shereejoy]

Mumstar - you are right none of that makes sense, and understand your anxiousness, I would hate to be waiting in limbo when I could be doing my best to the ttc. Big hugs to you.

Nicambar - Yeah a year older huh. Sometimes I wonder if my body clock is ticking alot lately, you have to wonder sometimes if all these problems would have happened if I was under 30. That is a shame about your hubby, hopefully it will happen for you guys, tell him my uncle (55) has become a dad for the 2nd time to his new wife who is 7 days older then me. So if he can do it, so can your dh. But in saying that my uncle will be 75 when his daughter is 20 OMG!

[nicjay]

Hi Sheree, Odette and Nicambhar,

How are you all? Sorry I have been a bit quiet lately - just needed a bit of time to myself and to spend with my DD. But I am feeling a bit better now, although I am still getting the occasional thoughtless remark that bites hard Anyway, I'm just waiting now for AF so we can get the TTC show back on the road. I'd love to be belly buddies with you all!

Big hugs to you Mumstar, how frustrating waiting that long for AF. You poor thing Have you thought about going back to your ob or calling him/her up to ask what they think? I find it hard to believe that there is nothing they can do for you until 16 weeks have passed. Do you know if you have Oed yet at all? I'm charting again now in the hopes that I can get a rough idea of when I O so I know when to expect AF back. I haven't Oed yet, but I'm really hoping it will be soon although I have no signs of it yet.

Nicambhar - that's good you are feeling less pressure, sometimes I think it a good thing to have something to focus on rather than just TTC KWIM? Good luck with the house building too - we built ours about 6 years ago and it was an adventure to say the least!

Sheree - I know exacty how you feel about the clock ticking - I am 37 and my DH is 41 and he may be out of a job next year too Oh well we've decided we can't put our lives on hold while we find out if he has a job or not. But I am wondering now if we had had our DD when we were younger then we wouldn't be so old and TTC again now, maybe I wouldn't have had this m/c if I was younger - I'm pretty good at driving myself nuts with questions since the m/c. I have to keep telling myself that I can't change all these things now, and that there is every chance that this m/c was just due to bad luck and that there is more than likely no reason for it to happen again. Why would I have a lovely DD if there is a reason that I can't have another one? Anyway, sorry - rambling on a bit now.