Stories about hardship and devastation sell.

I know its hard for you at the moment to see this, but once you have your baby safe at home and in your arms the "Look at them now" comes. Its hard to explain, you NEVER get over the loss but there is nothing like having a healthy happy baby either and I am proud to have a "Look at them now" I proudly show off both my beautiful daughters. People don't have to "see" my losses it has nothing to do with them but if they ask if I have others I always mention Nikita.

I know you cannot see it now, I couldn't, but these comments and stories you are seeing now will always be there and YOU have to find your way of dealing with them. Its healthy to vent about it in here but you also need to accept that other people who have not been in our shoes just DON'T understand, if they say "Well look at you know" You can be proud of the person you are, for being able to walk with such a heavy burden, being able to continue with your life with the daily reminders (there will be an awful lot when this baby comes).

What I am trying to say isn't really coming through but I hope in time you can sort of see what I am trying to get at.

You're not being picky, you're just doing the best you can right now.