Mako - I totally understand how it feels to have your DH say 'no more'. I totally understand the 'ripped off' feeling. DH said the same thing did after L was born. And I absolutely know it's not the same because I already had 2 healthy children, but it still hurt. It became like a constant ache in my gut. I remember going out and more and more I would start to look at other mums with lots of kids or families together and I just didn't feel like our family was complete. Two didn't seem like 'my' family. I understand where he is coming from after everything you have both been through, but perhaps it's time to put your foot down and let him know exactly how you feel and that there is more than just him involved in this decision? If things hadn't worked out the way they did for us with our little 'Boo' coming along, I think we would of needed some sort of counselling to try and reach a place together that we were both happy with. I'm sure he's just scared and tired of it all and doesn't want to go through it all again and most importantly, he doesn't want to see you have your heart broken again. It's a tough situation. I'm here any time you need to talk.
My weekend was fine. DD had a sleep over with my mum at my Nan's place (I'm getting good with this sleepover business huh?? LOL) and then I went down on Sunday and met them at the hospital and spent some time with my Nan. She was having a good day My mum is struggling with the idea of her not coming home and after seeing her on the weekend, I sort of get that now. She seems like she would be OK at home But that may just be because she's in the hospital and is getting the care she needs and her pain is managed etc. I don't know, it's hard. Her memory is not the best at the moment. One day she knows she is not coming home, the next she is asking when she'll be going home She forgot my mum's name the other day and got my boys names mixed up too
Deb - I've noticed you haven't been around and am hoping everything is OK with you and the children
Last edited by Willow; April 27th, 2010 at 10:09 AM.
I totally understand how it feels to have your DH say 'no more'. I totally understand the 'ripped off' feeling. DH said the same thing did after L was born. And I absolutely know it's not the same because I already had 2 healthy children, but it still hurt. It became like a constant ache in my gut. I remember going out and more and more I would start to look at other mums with lots of kids or families together and I just didn't feel like our family was complete. Two didn't seem like 'my' family. I understand where he is coming from after everything you have both been through, but perhaps it's time to put your foot down and let him know exactly how you feel and that there is more than just him involved in this decision? If things hadn't worked out the way they did for us with our little 'Boo' coming along, I think we would of needed some sort of counselling to try and reach a place together that we were both happy with. I'm sure he's just scared and tired of it all and doesn't want to go through it all again and most importantly, he doesn't want to see you have your heart broken again. It's a tough situation. I'm here any time you need to talk.
My mum is struggling with the idea of her not coming home and after seeing her on the weekend, I sort of get that now. She seems like she would be OK at home
But that may just be because she's in the hospital and is getting the care she needs and her pain is managed etc. I don't know, it's hard. Her memory is not the best at the moment. One day she knows she is not coming home, the next she is asking when she'll be going home
She forgot my mum's name the other day and got my boys names mixed up too
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