I have been in a position similar to yours (from what you have posted). Dh and I were fairly isolated from outside support (no family: all overseas or interstate) and we were literally 'at home with the baby'. this meant that there was no chance for 'time-out' or time to re-focus; especially in those tumultuous first 3 months (and ESPECIALLY the 5-8 week mark). It also put enormous pressure on us as a couple and threw many insecurities of our abilities as parents and humans to raise this little new person that was just so so demanding and completely reliant on us for her well being. it is a HUGE thing and a massive responsibility and unfortunately our modern western society really is at odds with 'raising babies': it kinda goes against all common sense...we have a baby, bring them home and then that's it, we sit in our lounge-room: alone. and the real tragedy is that it is up to us (as the parents) to force ourselves out on people. BUT you just gotta do it...

as the others have mentioned you have to FORCE yourself to talk to your MCHN about the loneliness, the isolation from family and the pressure this is placing on you achieving a happy (or at least not a distressed) relationship with your baby. she will have a few options for you like joining a mothers group (most states have MCHN-run ones...except QLD i think), she might also have some numbers that you can call if you don't like the way you feel and would like to talk to someone about the possibility of being at risk of PND (PND has many symptoms not just 'feeling low'...ie anxiety, insomnia, excessive crying, obsessive thoughts...not just doom and gloom, but like not being able to 'switch off', no appetite etc etc). If your MCHN does run a mothers group, but there is a waiting period, ask her if this can be reconsidered (again bring focus back to you being isolated). i know that where i lived (in the ACT) that there was a 'soft' rule that you waited until bubs was around the 12 week mark. but because i was obviously anxious and isolated i was found a spot when DD was 3 weeks old (and it was the BEST thing i could of done at that time as i was able to see other mums and see that my baby and myself were 'normal'...that no one really is like the 'maternal goddess' that is portrayed in the J&J ads LOL).

If you live in Victoria, call PANDA. although they are for post and ante natal anxiety (and you might not be experiencing this) i can highly recommend giving them a call as they have counsellors that can talk you through your feelings and maybe even find you a more compassionate MCHN (if that's an issue) or a mothers group that you can join, or even simple tips like baby friendly cafes etc etc in your area that can be a good place to hang out and just get out of the house and break the monotony. (they have a website too which is fantastic, especially if you live outside of VIC...panda org au).

HTH and big big it does and will get better and yes, you will love her and bond with her one day, just be gentle on yourself and place no expectations on how you feel you should be feeling. xx