Do you do time out or the naughty spot?

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Myturn I whole heartedly agree with you.

Strictly IMO it's important children have bounderies from a young age but those boundaries need to be age appropreate (sorry about my spelling baby brain fog is killing me) and the consequences also need to be age appropreate.
As adults we have punishment for undesirable behaviour and consequences such as Jail, fines and criminal records.

So now knowing about my childhood, at our house things are very different.......
We do both time out and naughty chair. They are one and the same here.

Time out after one warning, unless it's hitting, spitting etc. Then no warning straight to chair.
Time out starts once the child is calm and quiet, if there is any shouting out, leaving the chair, crying, screaming etc time starts again.
The time a child stays on the chair is age dependant for a 2 year old would be two minuites, 3 year old 3 minuites etc.
The rules are clearly defined each time. And after each sit on the chair we discuss why we were there and how to avoid the chair next time.
Goin to our bedroom dosn't work here (way too much fun stuff there)
and I'm not comfortable with chemicals in the bathroom and laundry. So we sit at the front door on the chair. But never behind the door.
Dd hasn' sat on the chair for a while now. But it's there and she knows it will be used if it's needed.
When we are out at friends and familys homes we use the floor in the room I am in. That way we are consistant all the time. If we were shopping no matter what, I leave the trolly (no matter how long we were there or how full the trolly) It dosn't take long for little ones to figure out the rules when you explain them each time and follow through.
No hitting, no abuse, no yelling. When my children understood the rules the undesirable behaviour stopped.
Even bought the chair back for ds hitting his little sister and that has stopped. Again I'm not yelling, not being nasty, not engaging his attempts at arguments with me. Works for us.
It is important to write down the rules for the chair so you know them and once the kids can read, they can read them. Thats why I tell the chidren the rules before each sit on the chair. That way everyone knows the rules before the punishment begins. And we always chat about it afterwards and discuss how to avoid the chair next time.
Time will come when the chair is made redundant and the chat takes over. The age varies for each child. As I said we recently bought back the chair for ds and his bad behaviour (hitting his sister) stopped as soon as he realised I was serious. Also worked for loosing his temper and shouting at me.
I don't believe it has anything to do with doing what he's told by authority figures. It teaches children that some behaviours are unaceptable in society. Like real life as an adult.