My mum believes in tough love. That if I bully my kids they will become tough and bullies later on in life won't affect them. It's how she parents.
She has a real issue with having a grandson with disability and makes it clear that since I won't hit A for stimming or having meltdowns I am allowing him to be 'retarded' and encouraging him to be different.

At the end of the day I look at her and think, I never want to be like you.