If I somehow forget all of the above, and my daughter has a baby one day, and she doesn't tell much about her pregnancy and doesn't invite me to the birth of my grandchild, I'll respect her decision to start her journey to motherhood the way she wants and will not call her late at night when she's 41 weeks pregnant to tell her what a selfish 'girl' she is and what a disappointment she is for excluding me.
I can really appreciate this one especially. You're not alone sweets, my father rang me and abused me calling me all sorts of things when my DD1 was 6 weeks old because my mother showed up on my doorstep AFTER I had told her specifically not to come over (we had all sorts of sleep and BF issues with DD1). I stayed in my room trying to sleep while she visited DH she then went home and cried to my father who in turn rang me and abused the begeezus out of me for my selfishly bad treatment of my mother. All she could say afterwards was "I told him not to ring you" ...... yeah if you had have respected my boundaries in the first place none of it would have happened.

Bringing me to another:

I will ALWAYS respect my childrens boundaries no matter how much it kills me.