Jen, not one single person has said directly to another person that they are damaging their child. We are saying that TH's advice is damaging to children. We know that not one single parent would harm their child and they use parenting advice from books with the very best of intentions. If it worked, that's awesome, and to be completely fair gentle methods don't work for all children too. They don't read the same books as we do, do they? So you do have to do what works for you, but is it really necessary to leave a child cry for hours? Is it really necessary to let a baby cry because they are hungry just because a book tells you they aren't ready for another feed yet? Her books, and others like it go against the very nature of what it is to be human kwim? She doesn't have to say directly that you are doing the wrong thing, but she maintains that her ways work so she doesn't HAVE to say it. By telling you that you your baby must go to sleep at a certain time when they are wide awake and you might want to have a bit of quality time with your baby because they are wide awake, doesn't that mean that therefore what you are doing is wrong?

If you are happy 100% with the way it has worked out for you then thats wonderful, it really is, but you cannot let yourself get offended when other people call it how they see it because it is not a judgement call on anyone at all, even though we may not ever understand why people like her so much. ANd you're right, BB is a gentle parenting site and you will never, ever see TH's and others methods endorsed on this website.