Save Our Sleep

[EsJay]

trillian i didnt see your post before i posted last, no i dont think its necessary for a baby to be left crying for hours, and i also dont think it necessary to make them wait for a feed, tbh i dont know a single person in my life who would do that.
i do know many who follow sos and love it, and have not had to let their baby cio, wait for a feed, or anything of a similar nature.

i dont expect this site to endorse anything, but as deltadawn said i feel i should be free to discuss whatever methods i want to, without fear of people telling me my methods are damaging my child (yes my methods because if i use THs methods they then become my methods, and therefore you are putting ME down as well as her) perhaps this is why i just dont post anywhere normally except my baby buddies, who are tactful in their dislike of what i do.
perhaps this section on routines should be removed or renamed if the only routines you can freely discuss are those that conform to gentle parenting ideals.

i have introduced feed to sleep as i felt dd needed the comfort at bedtime, and while it works to put her to sleep, i now cannot leave her with anyone, i have to be with her at bedtime as she will not settle for anyone bar me, which has caused problems, especially as i have been asked to return to work early, so as you say gentle parenting methods have their disadvantages/dont work for everyone as well.

edit: i wanted to say if you read the book years ago perhaps some of it has changed since you read it, this years revision is different to the one i had on loan which was a few yrs old. i recall a line in both versions "never ignore an emotional cry, go strait to your baby and comfort them" so she doesnt say to leave your baby regardless. also my DH's DD used to stick her fingers down her throat and make herself sick in protest of bedtime (regardless of the time), just so she could stay up and watch tv, so some children do do these things for absolutely no reason, im sure its rare but it does happen.