Thanks Jen, you seem to understand what I'm saying. No one should be punished for choosing to bring their children up in certain ways. I found something that worked for me and it seems I am crucified for it every time I mention it on BB. While BB wont encourage it, we should still feel free to discuss it. BB doesnt encourage FF either but there is a thread for it.

Issy02 - You use the word "theories" a lot in your post. That is all they are - theories. If you are from a research background like I am, you will no doubt agree that they will be disproven at some point anyway so why base your whole belief system on it? Remember when the world was flat? Remember when smoking was healthy? Having worked at one of Brisbane's major hospitals for 7 years in clinical trials (I also studied child development as part of my health degree) I have no faith in studies/trials whatsoever, usually not worth the paper they are written on. At the end of the day, my personal research has shown that 100% of my subjects (my two boys) are happy and healthy and if I can help others enjoy that, I will (and I have). I even take special note NOT to read studies that have been published because they are usually rubbish.

Trillian - I'm sorry you found my post to be rude but for 3.5 years that I've been on BB I've been holding my tongue and have never felt like I've been able to express my views unless it adheres to the BB guidelines of gentle parenting. I did this time. If this truly was a supportive environment, we should be able to openly discuss it without worry of such posts.

I'm with Jen. I will continue to do things the way that is working for me and will continue to suggest it to others who need help. Afterall, that is what a supportive forum is all about, isnt it?