Tyler's Mummy - you're not nasty at all! What you were feeling was legitimate - alone and unsupported and the you find out DP is dtiching you for a drinking buddy? Not cool. He needs to step up and be more considerate. Well that's what I think. Sometimes in hindsight I think we could all say things better, but your feelings were very real and you told him about them.
Good luck with your scan!

Hmm my losses. Back in about 1994 I had a loss at about 8 weeks but I don't ever think about that one and it's not really included in my ticker. I do think about how old that child might be from time to time and think about how different my life would be. IN July 08, I had a m/c at 8 weeks. Blighted ovum. Went for a dating scan to see an empty sac. My first ever scan and it was so sad. Then Amelia was born alive after spontaneous premature birth at 23 weeks, gest. She was too young to survive. So she died in my arms. Nicholas was born alive at 14 weeks gest. Because of that I can't call him a m/c. He wasn't just some blob of blood clot that I passed, but a wee little baby that I held alive for a second or two before he died. He was one of a twin ship. He was twin 1, or the presenting twin, the one closest to the birth canal. He was born after some bleeding which started at about 10 weeks, and continued on and off until his amniotic sac ruptured and about 24 hours later, he kind of just slipped on out, still attached to his umbilical cord. Luckily I was having a scan at the time when his predicament was discovered and there was an Obs next door to the maternal fetal medicine unit who delivered our wee boy. Then his twin sister, they were fraternal twins, with their own separate placenta and sac ( non identical) Sophie was born at 19 weeks gest, again spontaneous prem labour. I birthed her without any pain relief, and I was proud of myself for that. She lived she ages after she was born, about 4 hours. DH gave her a bath and we both cuddled her and nursed her, in fact I nursed her all through the night. I didn't do that with Amelia. For Amelia, the thought of sleeping with my dead baby just scared me. We had Amelia in the room with us quite a bit, but she also spent our sleeping time away from us. So 8 weeks, 8 weeks, 23 weeks, 14 weeks and 19 weeks. Never given any reason for the spontaneous prem labours, but possible cervical incompetence. Thanks for asking. Always happy to tell.