Ryn - I was having the same problem with my family. I told them straight up when I was 5wks pregnant that I do not want them anywhere near me at the hospital and when I am ready for visitors I will let them know. My mother was so outraged about it - she intended staying at our place for a month, as was my sister. When I told my mother that I don't want anyone staying here, she said - I'm not anyone, I'm your mother, where else am I suppose to stay?

The phone calls that were going back and forth in my family was unbelievable and stressing me out. I ended up telling DH that I don't want him to tell them when I am in labour and I will even give them a later EDD - so it will all happen and I can tell them afterwards. At least I don't have to worry about this situation for now.

I hope you handle it well. It's your life, your choices - they've had their chance, now let you have a go at handling things the way you want. If you make mistakes, then you learn from them.

Good luck.