Ryn
It is so sad that you are stressing about this now you poor thing.
You know your mind, what you want and can anticipate your mother and have every right to have your needs respected. It is hard trying to balance this with not alienating your family.

I would definitely ask the MIDWIVES (not nurses.....usually nurses don't work in maternity care) ask the midwives nicely but firmly to advocate for you in keeping visitors away at your request. You may like to know it is also actually against the privacy act for hospital staff to give any information out to visitors in person or over the phone.

Good luck.