The girls are right !!! the times when i have felt the most overwhelmed were when I had the feeling that I did'nt have much support in the room, either i did'nt gel with the midwifes or they seemed really young or a bit like they were waiting for shift to end?? My DH is caring but he finds it hard to be assertive and would take their opinion as gospel assuming that they know what they are doing(cause its their job). I have had my mum in during the labour on 2 occasions, that was helpful cause i knew that she would do whatever it took to get it done, whatever "it" was, plus she has done it before on a few occasions and well!!!