Do the hospital birthing classes, that way he will understand what is to come, my DH was a bit upset becasue I was grouchy / and ordered him around..???? Definatley another support person so if he needs a break, he can, even if its only to sit in a corner for a moment or wait it out while you shower etc. Write a birth plan of what you want together, so he understands what is important to you or what you might like and most of all be flexiable, often what you think you want and what you do is very different when it comes to the time. i thought I wanted to labour in the bath< th ewhole pregancy I wanted baths, when it came to labour I got in the bath then got straight back out!!! Dh was horriffied that it had taken so long to run and then I did'nt use it!!! Last time I expected that i would be walking heaps, whneit came to the time all I wanted to do was kneel beside the bed with my head on the side and DH to hold my hands.