Read the same books, read the same birth stories (plenty of them here), have a chat about it together.

Don't focus on the negatives. My first was over and done with in 5 hours - no reason yours won't be the same - no reason you might need a transfusion etc etc etc iykwim?

It doesn't HAVE to be all doom and gloom. Yes, labour is hard work eeerm -probably why they call it labour ha ha bloody ha - but if you can, get in a headspace to celebrate your body and trust it.

Your body is already doing something amazing, it won't necesarrily spaz out at the last minute.

xoxoxoxo Pm me any ole time you want xoxoxo