Thanks for all your kind words!! I do want to be honest, i know that is the best way, but I am so petrified of the outcome and I know its going to change everything!! I hope that it will encourage him to fight harder for his other kids and that he will eventually accept this. But I do know that initially it is not going to go well...he doesn't react well with pressure and he is going to freak out...He is a very deep person, but he is terrible at showing it and tends to say and act the opposite of what he is feeling, because he is scared of his actual feelings! He is a pain (he is a man lol), and I love him sooo much!!

I really needed to just tell someone else, and I'm glad I came across this forum. I am a person that hates confrontation and keep bottled, but I know that I can't do that in this situation, but I know thats why I'm scared of actually having to tell him...arrggh life sure does throw its curve balls!!