rylansmum,
My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.
I lost my father 9 years ago to terminal cancer. Beofre he died he gave my partner at the time his permission to marry me (I was 18 at the time). None the less, we are now happily married and expecting our first child.
My mother had been very ill for the last 2 years with liver disease. She was getting better so my husband and I started to TTC, 3 months later we found out we were pg, although unsure of the dates. We told my mother the day we found out. She was so happy. She was getting better and had medically reitred at 55. SHe was in hospital at the time, going to a rehab hospital to get physically fit (she had surguery to remove skin cancer from her leg). We went for a scan later that week and found out we were 6 weeks pregnant. Mum was so excited, i had never actually seen her that happy. She was finally going to be a grandma!!!!
She died suddenly and unexpectantly that saturday from a brain haemorrage. I was seven weeks pregnant.
The hardest thing I have ever had to do is carry on with this pregnancy without my mother being there to support me, to laugh at me with all the little things that I have done, which i know she would be doing.
I am now 27 weeks pregnant. I feel that I never grieved my mothers death, as, from the day she died, people have said to think about my unborn child. I do, but I also think about what my mum is missing out on.

I haven't met anyone that has had the same thing happen to them, I just thank my lucky stars that we found out when we did about my pregnancy and I told her that day.

My advice is to get the help that you can now. Find a nice social worker or councellor, who can deal with this. If she is in a hospital or pallative care there are specially trained workers to help with grief. You will probably start greiving before your mother has even passed away, which is natural. You are going through so much with just the pregnancy let alone the death of a very much loved one.

Take the time you have now to spend with your mother, as it will never come back. Take photos of you and your mum so you can show your child when they grow up that 'that was them in your belly' with grandma!

My husband and I are planning on naming ours (if it is a girl) with a variation of my mothers name and if it is a boy with my fathers name as the middle name. It is our way of showing our children, that they are there is spirit and blood even if they can;t be there in person.

Don't try for an induction or to deliver early just so they can meet your mum. Babies come out when they are ready. if anything should happen trying to deliver early you would have to bare that as well as the illness of your mother, and I know from experiance, its hard enought to hadle one thing at a time.