Kerrie, I forgot to say IKWYM about the comments that kind of imply that it's going to be easier for you because you've got the baby as if a baby is some kind of replacement. It's so damn annoying - nobody can replace your Mum or any other person for that matter. The wierd thing for me about that comment is that when my sister was in a coma and we weren't sure if she would pull through I remember my mother going nuts about the way that people kept saying at least you have 3 other children. It was only after she was gone that I truly understood how infuriating the sentiment is and had a better understanding of why she was so angry.
For me one of the great ironies of losing Mum when I did was that the last few years have given me a much greater understanding of where she was coming from - now that I'm a parent myself I have more in common with her but it's too late to share it.