Thanks Mayaness, I think everyone should just have respect for each others opinions and not push onto each other. It's nice to hear peoples advice and i am always interested in hearing about others experiences. I recently looked into hiring a doula to be present when i do concieve and give birth in hospital but i found that the woman i spoke to was much more interested in telling me i was making a bad decision and steering me towards a home birth. By the end i was turned off doulas for life and still kinda feel that way. I was looking for extra support because i suffer anxiety and not to feel the complete opposite which is how she made me feel. Who knows maybe with my subsequent births i may change my views but for my first i want to be in hospital and i should alos add that my husband and i have been researching our birth choices for 8 years and my decision is pretty well informed to me. I just can't believe peoples attitudes towards this subject, why can't everyone just respect each other. We all have to learn via our own experiences so it may be that i regret my decision but maybe i would regret going the other way and not trusting my instincts.
Steffi that is really disappointing to hear that you struck a doula who didn't respect your choice to birth in hospital.
It's true there are some doulas out there who so abhor hospital births and have decided as a matter of conscience that they won't lie to women about what they know and what they have seen of hospital birth, and who push homebirth strongly as an option. It sounds like the doula you met with was completely mismatched with you and that's a shame.

But I can assure you that most doulas wouldn't try to influence your choices like that, that's not what we are here for.