Yep, Steffi - don't let anyone tell you what you 'should' be doing! It's one thing to say what you could do, it's quite another to presume to tell someone it's what they should do. And for some people, the more they learn about epi's etc, the less they want to use them, depending on what kind of pg they are having (normal or high-risk).
I don't keep my opinions and experiences to myself here on BB because that's not what internet forums are for I will share what kinds of things people could do to achieve a more satisfying birth experience, too and why I believe these to be of benefit Then you can just take it or leave it from there!
Good luck with TTC