Thanks Mayaness, I think everyone should just have respect for each others opinions and not push onto each other. It's nice to hear peoples advice and i am always interested in hearing about others experiences. I recently looked into hiring a doula to be present when i do concieve and give birth in hospital but i found that the woman i spoke to was much more interested in telling me i was making a bad decision and steering me towards a home birth. By the end i was turned off doulas for life and still kinda feel that way. I was looking for extra support because i suffer anxiety and not to feel the complete opposite which is how she made me feel. Who knows maybe with my subsequent births i may change my views but for my first i want to be in hospital and i should alos add that my husband and i have been researching our birth choices for 8 years and my decision is pretty well informed to me. I just can't believe peoples attitudes towards this subject, why can't everyone just respect each other. We all have to learn via our own experiences so it may be that i regret my decision but maybe i would regret going the other way and not trusting my instincts.