Greenslw: I agree... NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and did I say NO! This is your moment and you don't need any negative influences. Oh and as for the airfare ??? She has known you're pregnant for how long and hasn't bothered to start saving? I suggest you either call her or write her a letter, polite but still stating your point.

Try this on for size:

Dear MIL,

Thank you so very much for your offer of being present at the birth of our first child. As much as we appreciate it, we are going to have to decline. As you can understand it is our first this is a very special moment in our lives and we have decided to have just the two of us there. However you are more than welcome to come and visit once we are out of hospital and have settled in at home for a few days. As far the contribution to the airfare, I'm sure you can understand that having to drop from 2 wages to 1 wage has casued some slight temporary strain on our finances (not to mention the additional cost of having to set up a nursery, and medical expenses etc) so unfortunately we will be unable to pay for half of your ticket, however we will understand if you feel you need to take a little longer to save up before you come & visit.


And if she causes trouble with it, maybe DF is just going to have to see her in her true light, and see that in the biggest moment of your lives she in only thinking of herself.

Good luck!