Airline- PIG is a post it girl. Means that Disgirl and I have exchanged mobile numbers and we will text each other when bubs arrives. I will post Disgirls birth announcement and she will post mine
Now, girls, I need your advice please...
I am finding that I am seriously overestimating what I can get done at the moment without falling in a heap! I'm also finding it really hard to sleep as I can't get comfy. My fall back position of on my back is painful now and I can't sleep on my side without a pillow. The trouble is that I've never been very good at sleeping while snuggled up to anything. DH and I sleep on opposite sides of the bed. So I can get to sleep with a pillow supporting my tummy but wake after about an hour because I'm uncomfortable and have to move.
Poor DH had me in tears last night about half 10 because I was so tired but couldn't sleep.
Now- here's my dilemma... I am a teacher and I had planned to finish the school year (Dec 10- makes me just oer 37 weeks) I'm starting to doubt my ability to make it. Especially since I teach in a demountable classroom (One of those metal boxes) which is roasting in summer! I am a contract teacher which means if I go off before Dec 10 I can take maternity leave up until the date of the end of my contract (Dec 10). But if I work up until I can't take mat leave after.
I'm starting to toss up taking some mat leave as I don't think I'll make it to Dec 10. My teaching partner and my DH think I should go off at the end of this term and take all of term 4 on mat leave (would be finishing at 27 weeks). I feel conflicted as I really want to be with these kids as long as possible but I know I have to put myself first. I've sent an email asking for a meeting with my principal to see what he thinks. I'm just finding it hard after so many years of teaching to think of myself before my class.
What do you all think, use your many hats- friends, parents, pregnant women, professionals. Also, any tips for my conversation with my boss as when I told him I was preggers I told him I planned to finish the year, after that conversation, he renewed my contract for the 2nd half of the year.
Hope I haven't confused you- I am crazy tired and not even seeing straight. Am at work today but tired and grumpy.
Glenny C i can relate fully to both the sleeping or lack thereof and also your job. I too am a teacher and currently work in a job share 3 days a week and casual the other 2. My job share contract ends at the end of this year. I too have had full intention of working as long as i possibly can. I'm not sure what your principal is like but i have a very supportive one who has told me that i don't need to give a definate date and can just keep going until i find it gets too much. She has been very supportive. I think it is hard to know how you/your body will react the further along you get and hence makes it hard to make a decision so soon. I would go crazy if i was off from 27 weeks knowing that i felt well enough to still be doing my job. I know how much you get attahced to the children and don't want just anyone to finish the year off with them. If you feel comfortable talk to your principal about your concerns and see what he/she says. It is a hrad decision to make, maybe see how your doing at the end of this term and make your decision from there. Good luck with it. I have given up getting a good night sleep atm doesn't matter which way i lay i always need to roll every hr or so making it difficult to roll with a pillow between your legs!!!! Not sure what to do about that!
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Last edited by Renee; August 3rd, 2010 at 06:41 PM.
Renee,
I'm hoping my principal will be supportive as well. The thing that has me is that according to DETA you have to put in for mat leave 10 weeks prior to taking it. So I feel like I have to rush my decision as I have no idea how I will be in 10 weeks.
I agree I would go stir crazy at home if I am well.
So hopefully my principal will let me go off when I feel I need to without giving advance warning
airline, I meant was it a 3dt or 5dt. Just trying to get an idea of how many dpo you would have been. With regards to the EDD, if you O'd, I'd use that to calculate the due date. I did it that way (although, in my case it was EPU instead of O) and our 7 week scan measured spot on for that due date.
glenny, one thing I've learned from my friends, is that pregnancy plans are NOT set in stone. My BFF had intended to work until 36wks for her first pg, but when she visited her OB at 27 weeks he told her to finish working that day because her BP was up and he was worried about pre-e (she ended up being fine). I think if you make it clear that you want to work and want to be there for the kids, but you are concerned that your ability to do your job properly for them will be impaired as you progress, then it would be hard to be upset with you. I think just be honest. The way you've worded it above, it sounds like you intend to share your concerns with him, rather than presenting a decision that is already made, which sounds like the right approach to me. I don't know what your relationship with the principal is like, but I've found that being open and honest has worked really well for me. I get a heck of a lot of leeway from my managers (eg today I'm working at home because I feel a bit crappy and didn't want to go to work).
ETA: My employer requires 10 weeks written notice prior to the intended start of maternity leave. If something comes up during those 10 weeks that means you have to finish earlier, then you just finish earlier.
Hi and welcome, Airline. If it helps to allay any twin fears/concerns, I'm pregnant with twins and my HcG reading was in the low 3000s at about 14 days post transfer. Great news that your levels are rising as they should! I never knew what a PIG was either; so thanks for asking the question.
MaggiePie, sorry to hear you've got MS. I've been one of the lucky ones who has escaped it altogether, although I am starting to go off certain foods that I once loved like fresh salmon. I hope it doesn't last forever as I love salmon.
Juniper, I can't really help with your indigestion/heartburn question. I don't think I'll be far away from experiencing it, though, because I find now that I can only eat small meals because I fill up really quickly. At my scan on Friday I found out the reason why: twin 2's feet are approaching up near my ribs! I just know I am going to be horribly uncomfortable soon.
GlennyC, I have similar problems with sleep as you are. I am still comfortable on my back, but try to lie on either side with a pillow in between my legs. I've been getting really sore shoulders, though, from sleeping this way and sore ears, as my earrings are digging into my ear lobes. Plus my brain won't switch off and let me get a decent night's sleep! Aaagh. Re your maternity leave dilemma, I think Juniper has offered some sound advice. It's hard to know how you will feel a couple of months down the track. Still, having said that, you do need to put yourself first because you won't be able to look after your baby if you don't look after yourself. I think you should take advantage of the maternity leave provisions available to you. If that means going on leave before 10 December, then that's what it means. My FS has mentioned the possibility of me stopping work at 25 weeks! (Twins, age, premature birth risks etc) The thought is making me ill as I really want to keep going, but in the end if that is what he advises that is what I will do for the health of my babies. Hope this helps ...
I had my morph scan on Friday. The scan itself was in two parts - one hour each half with a five-minute toilet break in between. Then we waited 50 mins for the obsetrician to re-scan a few bits which the sonographer was unable to do because of bubs' positions. The upshot is the babies are both doing well, all markers look good. Only potential problem is a low-lying placenta of twin 1. The OB said it's more than likely it will move up as the PG progresses along with the uterus. I need to have a 27 week growth scan (b/c of twins) and a 33 week growth scan (b/c of twins and low-lying placenta) as it's not until week 33 that the placenta should have moved upwards. Worst case scenario is if it doesn't it's technical term is placenta praevia. Means the placenta covers the cervix and a vaginal birth is out of the question. Also means even with a c-section increased risks of bleeding because the placenta is lower in the uterus and won't contract as it should so harder to stem the bleeding! Great. FX that it moves up as it should, hey?
Hi girls, guess what we had snow today! It has already melted but at one stage it was snowing quite hard and the ground was white. Have had lots of imaginative games this week as kids have been stuck inside for over a week now....
Glenny, hope the meeting with your principle goes well. On the sleeping issue, did you know that you shouldn't lie on your back for extended periods after 12 weeks, as the weight of the baby can press against the blood vessels returning blood from the legs and organs and cause problems such as decreased blood flow to the baby, changes in blood pressure etc. So on the side is a better option. Try a pillow under the tummy or between the legs or both maybe??? I think that if the sleeping thing does not improve you may want to go on leave sooner rather than later as you will probably be really tired towards the end anyway with the heat. My first bub was born mid Jan and I worked until 36 weeks (only 3 days a week too) and in hindsight that was too long for me as when I did finish I spent a week catching up! And the heat was really exhausting too. I know it feels to feel guilty at leaving (I work with families and some can take it quite personally when you say you are going on leave etc) but in the long run, your family is more important, starting with yours and your bubs health. Every mum of every kid in your class has been there before remember, and none of them will think bad of you for leaving if you need to! You need to be fully rested too in the lead up to labour and looking after a new bub, so please don't be afraid to put yourself first.
I probably sound rather bossy but I am trying to impart some wisdom that has taken me a while to work out - that you have to look after no 1 or you will not be able to look after anyone else. It has only taken me two kids, working too much, not being able to then finally learning how to say 'no' to people, post natal depression and the difficult journey of TTC to realise this! So if I can help anyone realise this earlier I will be happy.
One thing I have also come to realise is that other people (eg your kids in the class) WILL be ok without you! So I hope this perspective helps you. Just remember whatever you decide go with your gut feeling and you will be right.
Brunette, glad the scan went well. My sister also had a low lying placenta early in pregnancy, and by 30 weeks it was ok and she had a vaginal birth. So I hope this is what happens in your case.
Im on the list! YAY! Thanx Renee.
My EDD is the 30th march BTW, hehe. We are having a boy and i call him Blame cause he gets blamed every time i do something embarrassing (like fart) Haha. So my hubby calls him 'the blamester'. I also call him little man, maybe that is nicer...???
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Jaki - not a prob i have added that info to the list
Maggiepie- it is beautiful when it snows. I grew up in Bathurst and at least once a year we would get a small amount of snow. Cold but great fun!
Brunette - Glad your scan went well.
I just had my first real emotional crack!!! Made a casserole and went to put in in my preheated oven to find that it wasn't hot. Then i transfered it to a fry pan but it was too big!! I know it is silly but i lost it, I swore a bit and then burst into tears DH looked at me like i had three heads. Since then i have had a cleaning freak and done the floors and the bathroom. All in an hr and a half. Weird
Feel like it's been ages since I've had the time to pop on, my new job is just non-stop unfortunately so no chance to jump on at work.
Worrywort & Airline - congratulations and welcome to you both. Worrywort, I take the Blackmores Preg/Breastfeeding Gold, took it religously in the first trimester and now only take it when I remember (damn pregnancy brain!).
Jaki - sounds like you're going to find out the sex at your morph scan around 19 weeks?
Brunette - I'm really glad that double trouble are progressing nicely, and I'm sure the placenta will have plenty of time to make it's way to it's proper home. How long crown to rump were your twins measuring? Oh, DH and I have only just in the last few weeks gone back to DTD, we were both so freaked out by the (minimal compared to you) spotting in the early stages. Hey how are you going with the baby shopping, have you starting putting together everything you'll need (x2!)?
Paula - best of luck for your delivery when the time comes, hopefully you won't do a LondonMiss and keep cooking it.
Re starting maternity leave, at this stage I am due to finish up about 3 weeks before EDD but who knows!! I'm stunned that I'm up in the top half of the due date list, crazy!!
AFM: Off to Townsville at the end of this week for my neice's wedding, it's a super quick trip but it'll be good to head to the sun. Bugger that snow MaggiePie, I'll take the sun any day. It was a bloody nightmare finding a dress to wear to the wedding, to accommodate the belly. So I'm in my 20th week now, and have had two nose bleeds which are apparently a pregnancy related thing, but luckily no heartburn so I can still load up on the chilli and tomatoes YUM!
OBs appt tomorrow arvo, being that I got my morph scan a week and half ago at a different place I'm assuming he'll go over it with me? I also got blood tests about a month ago which he didn't discuss at my last appt so maybe he will at this appt? I'm assuming my iron is okay being that he didn't suggest a supplement, even though I've gone off red meat completely and am not big on my leafy greens. Seriously I just feel like if I don't specifically ask him something he's not going to offer any info up. If you google his name, someone has called him the 40 second doctor. great.
Okay, I'm off to put another load of washing in.
Belly rubs to all. and sticky vibes to Airline and Worrywort.
Glenny, it's bloody awkward to have to put in mat leave 10 weeks before, but I'm guessing if you get signed off by a doc then they have to accept it. ?? I'm not a teacher but it's so nice to hear you and others saying how much the kids mean to you and that you don't want to leave them in the lurch, but as someone else said, you and your family are no.1 priority now and that's not a selfish thing. I don't have issue sleeping yet, way to early, but when I've had a bad back (in the small of it) I always slept with a normal sized pillow between knees and just fought with the doona every time to turn over with it intact...lucky for me DH sleeps like a log. It definately works though, so hopefully will work for you.
juniper...sounds silly I know, but DH and I were so concentrating on being positive on transfer day that we both forgot to ask which embies they put in the 3 or 5 day
renee - you made me smile with the dinner story... that's the sort of thing I do normally!
well i'm gonna start a ticker...an ivf-infertility website's calender says FET - use first day of LMP OR date of O. I don't know when I Od so...LMP it is. gonna go choose one now....this may take some time:-)
when i go to edit signature it says i'm not entitled to have an html.....hmmmm any ideas? also too many characters, but that much I get...just delete some which i did and it still didn't work...
airline, most tickers will give you a html link and a BBCode link - you need to use the BBCode one (just the part between the [img] tags). If you can't work it out, send me a PM with the code (just add an extra space after every "[" so I can edit the code) and I'll send you back what you need to use. There's a post in another section about signature & ticker guidelines somewhere, but I can't remember where right now. If I find it, I'll send it to you.
Brunette, FX that placenta moves up.
Chrissy, have fun in Townsville! It should be a great time of year to be there! I'm trying to talk DH into a trip to Cairns in October for our babymoon because I figure it's too hot after that, but I don't think he can get the leave.
Renee, you've done well to wait this long! Let's just say my DH has been very patient for 3 months now (first during the IVF and then ever since the BFP).
Well, I met with my boss and he was lovely. Not nearly as scary as I thought it would be.
He told me not to worry about giving 10 weeks notice, we could just work it day by day and if I need to go off he'll support me. so my goal is to make it to end of week 5 next term which will make me 32 weeks. That way I'm here for all the assessment and I can write reports at home while on leave.
Also means I'll be off Nov 5th so hopefully before it starts getting too ugly in my classroom heat wise.
I feel a lot better although I'm still tired as I didn't sleep the best again.
On a bright note though- I had my first water aerobics last night and it was BRILLIANT!!! My back feels heaps better already and it helped lift my mood a lot. Yay!! I'll be keeping that up for sure!!
So- should be finished my whinge now (thanks for putting up with me girls) and I can get back to less selfish posts.
yeh I did it! thanks for the pointer juniper. Not feeling pregnant again. Thought m/s was settling in, as nasty as it is, you feel like it's a reassurance. But no...nothing last night or this morning. Starting to want another BT last one was on Thursday. Our hCG levels went up last year, and I had constant nausea, but we fell at the scan as it had all stopped happening around week 5, then I had to wait another 2 weeks for a scan before eventually having a D&C. My FS said the nausea/ms can hang around after development stops. I can feel my positivity slipping away, it's like I need a sign or something. Will have to talk to DH re BT see what he thinks. He was soo excited yesterday full of kisses and cuddles.
Hi ladies
I make this post with much sadness & heartache. My scan on friday showed my precious bub had passed away. My worst fears..again. This is my 4th m/c now and am very quickly losing all hope that i will ever be a mum. I have had so many tests done last time and i have positive ANA (antinuclear antibodies) & NK cells, am really starting to think this is my problem and i fear i will keep on killing our poor babies. I feel like such a failure. I was on all the right drugs, clexane, prednisone, progesterone etc...just dont know what else to do?
If anyone has any good stories of success after multiple losses would love to hear them. I know it does happen, but i'll never know if it will happen for me. Dont know what to think at the moment, i swing from anger to fear to complete dispair. I have to go in for a D&C sometime this week, i am really hating carrying around my dead baby inside me at the moment, i just want it out!
So sorry to be a downer on this thread. I want to thank each & every one of your for your support over the last month and wish you all the very best for continued safe & happy pregnancies.
Hopefully one day i will be back, but for now i need a good break...and a few more good cries
Just wanted to say to Yogi how sorry I am to hear your news. I will be thinking of you, please let yourself grieve as this is a very tough time. Don't give up, there is so much research into recurrent miscarriages - there is nothing 'wrong' with you, you just need to find the right person to help you get the baby you so very, very much deserve. Hugs to you xxx
Hi everyone!
and sticky vibes to Airline and Worrywort.
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