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    Tantee, congratulations!
    I really can relate. It has been nearly 4 years for us as well and I also had a lap in March this year (diagnosing & removing moderate endo).
    It's a nerve-wracking time, but such a hopeful one too (for me, I was like, well, I'd much rather stress about this than IVF stuff). It does seem surreal at times.
    Take is easy, just one day at a time (there's no other way) and hope that time does fly til your scan. I also think a lot of time sleeping and spoiling yourself too is good, eg doing just what you want, movies, trashy magazines etc (these are the things I do as a treat). Also, you might not be "over the moon" every day and that's ok too.


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    Welcome, Tantee! We've all been there ie worrying about the 7-week scan, then the 12-week scan, then the 20-week scan ... So you're definitely in the right place to share your concerns and hopefully have them alleviated. Congratulations!

    Worrywort, if you're worried about not being able to take Blackmore's P & BF gel capsules and concerned about missing out on iodine, you could always see your GP and get your thyroid levels tested. It's a simple blood test which will show whether you're in the normal range or not. As I said previously, I have an underactive thyroid and my specialist (endocrinologist) is quite regularly sending me off for blood tests, every two weeks.

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    Welcome Tantee!

    BT results from y'day, HCG is 7535. My nurse says all is good and i dont need anymore BT's. Now i just have to hold out for the scan!
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    Hey Tantee!! Welcome, I'm very new in here too, but just like all the forums everyone's a sweetie.

    Jaki80, great news from your nurse, what date is your scan?

    I also had another BT...just couldn't help myself and even DH was persuading me. The m/s has been around for about 3 days now. So a week ago the hCG was 933 and today it was 15066!! The receptionist said it was fantastic, but no idea if its high, low or average.

    She also explained how they calculate how far gone I am and due date (although she did misread the 'wheel' they use and said, 'you'll be due in January' !!! I laughed and said, I don't think so :-) )
    I had a natural FET so they take the date of transfer and just add 2 weeks on. So I'm not as far along as I thought. My transfer was on 12th July, 2 weeks before was the 28th June.......so 40 weeks from 28th June is 4th April 2011. Phew! finally worked it out. So I'm 5 weeks and 3 days. Better change the ticker.

    Hope everyone is travelling well xx
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    airlene my scan is tues the 10th.
    I had my TF the same day as you. So if my numbers are good then yours are incredible! Maybe its twins!
    If you had a natural FET cycle should you not date your pg from the first day of your last period. If you are regular. I get a bit lost too!
    Im told with a fresh ivf cycle its EPU + 2 weeks, when i worked out that verse my first day of period it was the exact same.
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    Tantee - welcome and congratulations. I think we all appreciate what it feels like at the beginning, and wishing you a very happy and healthy nine months!

    AFM- Got yet another cold this week courtesy of my little 15 month old bug catcher, so am back to laying low (literally) as well as looking after her as she is far sicker than me. I know it's boring hearing about people feeling sick, but I have my fingers crossed that in a couple of weeks my immune system will kick in and I will get my energy and lungs back and be able to be a bit more active in here!

    I have been quietly watching and hope that all you ladies are doing well.

    I saw a few questions about working out your due date for a FET. To work out your due date, use the day you ovulated ('O' date) minus two weeks as your LMP.
    For example, if you had a two day transfer, your 'O' date was two days prior to transfer and therefore your LMP would be your transfer date minus 16 days (14 +2). If you had a 5 day transfer, your 'O' date was 5 days before transfer, then another 14 days before this date, therefore your LMP would be your transfer date minus 19 days. It won't make much of a difference for a 2 day transfer, but for a 5 day transfer (like me), using the transfer date would be almost a week out. Hope this helps - it's logical when it's explained to you so hope this makes sense!
    xxx
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    Welcome Tantee, and congratulations on your BFP! It is a nervous wait at the start I am getting impatient for my 12 week scan (which I keep forgetting to book by the way blaming this on pregnant brain). Just take one day at a time and hopefully it will go quickly for you - but not so quick that you forget to enjoy it! Have you told any friends or family yet???

    Jaki and airline, congrats on the great numbers. Airline is it possible you are having twins?????? That number seems high even though I don't know alot about numbers. I had my blood tests and don't have to see the Dr for a month. She said she would call if there were any concerns and hasn't called, so assuming all is well but now I am keen to see what my 'numbers' were. Might have to drop in and get a copy of my pathology results.

    Lairdoz, feeling on the sickness issue. I have finally got over this sinus thing. Then DS decided to get a tummy bug and not sleep for several nights. So feeling quite tired at the moment. Hope you and DD are feeling better soon and you get to rest lots.

    And I have worked too much this week and have a busy two weeks ahead. Have decided that working in hosp is a huge sensory overload when preg eg cleaning stuff, hand rub, excrement etc etc. Am just filling in for a while till they get a full time person in position, which I am hoping is sooner rather than later. And today crazy lady tried to make me feel her fake boobs!
    I am getting pregnant brain badly. Forgot one of best friends birthdays. Remembered late last night lying in bed. Worst thing was I actually had been texting her and still forgot!

    Hope everyones brain holding out better than mine!

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    Just want to thank you all so much for your thoughts and kind words You are such a lovely bunch of women. I had the d & c yesterday and went ok, i am feeling pretty good physically today, but of course the emotional healing is going to take a lot longer.

    I want to wish you all the very best for safe & happy pregancies. I hope to be back one day with good news...we must keep the HOPE.

    Thanks again xxx

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    Hi Yogi Bear,

    I am glad to hear that the d&c went ok, I hope you recover from that quickly. I also hope and believe that you will be back in here one day, just give yourself some time and when you are ready you will know. Best of luck with your journey xoxox.

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    Ladies - your thoughts please!
    My sister, who lives in Europe and I am not particularly close to has made little effort in keeping in touch or asking about my 1st IVF miracle who is now 16 months (she didn't send her so much as a Christmas or 1st birthday card this year). My sister is two years older than me and got pregnant her first month of trying (my 1st month of trying IVF for #2). She just had her baby and named her son the name my DH and I have wanted to call our son if we have one for as long as I can remember (she didn't know it was our name, so it wasn't deliberate). I told my Mum and Dad right away and both of them said it was just bad luck and I'll have to think of another name (although my Mum cooled a bit when she realised I was serious about the name) The one friend who I told (who has a nephew herself with the same name so knew she was safe to tell as she has already told me her boys names!) said I should call him what I want as my sister has nothing to do with my life in Australia as none of my friends have ever met her (she's lived overseas for almost 15 years). I know I should be really happy for her, but I am really ****ed off. I don't have another name, and feel like any name we are forced to pick would never be the name I want but the main issue is that it's my DH's choice of names for his boy and he doesn't want to change it for someone who he's had nothing to do with and who he's not seen make any effort with our DD. We don't even know the sex of the baby, nor if it's OK yet as we have yet to have our 12 week scan, but this is driving me a bit crazy!

    Can't ask many people their thoughts on this - so would appreciate any advice.
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    Lairdoz - I totally understand where you are coming from. I had a girl in my mother's group call her DD exactly the name I had told her we wanted if we had a girl next! But we decided that if this bub is a girl we might use that name anyway (if it suits). You just never know with names - we had a short list for our DD but none of them seemed to fit her when she was born so we ended up with something different. I guess if you don't have much to do with your sister then it won't really matter what your bub is called, although she may think it strange if you 'copy' her DS name - or is it a family name, then you could get away with it.
    Maybe try not to worry about it at the moment, especially as you don't know what you're having yet????

    By the way good luck in your 12 week scan, hope it all goes well.

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    Lairdoz, if you ask me, the main reason to not use the same name is to avoid confusion. If they're not going to have much contact and you have developed an attachment to the name, then I think you should still be able to use it. If it's just the first name, you could consider using it as a middle name instead, but it sounds like that's unnecessary in this situation. We picked girls names back in 2003 and since then, not 1 but 2 people working for the same company as me have used the exact combination of first and second name that we picked (the most recent one to use it works in the office next to mine, the other is interstate). But we've had our hearts set on that name for 7 years, so I'll be d*mned if anyone is going to stop us using it just because there might be some confusion at the 1 or 2 work social events we have per year (unfortunately, neither of us are likely to leave this company in a hurry). The only thing is I had been toying with adding an extra middle name before they used it (does anyone have any thoughts on using 2 middle names?) but DH doesn't seem to like the idea. If we do have a girl you can be certain that the birth announcement email for work will include a footnote saying that we chose this name in 2003 and will not find any "jokes" about copying others funny. Ps, you're under 200 days to go!!

    Yogi, I'm glad to hear your physical recovery is going well. I hope to see you back here soon with a very sticky bfp.

    Hi to everyone else. Sorry to be quiet lately, I've had a cold for the last week and have been feeling rotten, so laying low. Still sick, but back at work today.

    Has anyone else had issues with their DH not wanting to let others share their news? My DH won't give my parents permission to tell the wider family or their friends (his family isn't that close, so it's a non-issue on that side, plus his parents already have 5 grandchildren). He keeps saying, "it's our news". He doesn't seem to understand that my parents are excited about their first grandchild and that it is their news too in that respect. I'm not sure what to do. I've got DH being stubborn and my mum saying this in the email I got this morning: "It is over 14 weeks now, it’s getting a bit stupid not allowing us to spread the good news."

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    Thanks so much ladies, such a frivolous thing to worry about, but I am still stuck at home sick so little things can get me all worked up!

    Maggie my plan is to tell my sister before we find out the sex, this way she has time to get used to the idea that if it is a boy, their names will be the same (she has called her son a shortened version of a longer name, we will give our son the full length version) but also know why I am not sharing the sex if we find out as I donít want my family (or anyone else) knowing the name and sex of my baby before itís born. I am not into lying so can't find out the sex and pretend I don't know and I want to know!

    Juniper, my DD has two middle names, purely because the initials with the names we loved were awful together, so had to add another family name.
    With regards to sharing news, I didn't tell anyone until I was 16 weeks last time. I do understand completely how excited grandparents get, but it's a really tough journey to be a parent by IVF, so I guess your DH is just getting his head around this being real, which of course you know it is!

    If you know how to get rid of a cold while pregnant, please let me know too!!

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    Hi lovely ladies!

    Its been a little while since I've popped in, so much to catch up on!

    Firstly, a big WELCOME to airline and Tantee! Great to see you both in here. Airline, I remember you from the LTTTC threads from last year. And Tantee, you're definitely in the right place! KWYM about the anxious wait for the 7wk scan, I went and got another blood test from my GP at the 6 week mark to tide me over! As others have said, take it one day at a time if you can. The old PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) helps too, I learnt that in here.

    Lairdoz - how damn annoying about the name thing! I'm with the others - just call your baby what you want to, your sister shouldn't have any impact on that. I'm married to someone with the same name as me, and even that doesn't get too confusing, so cousins on opposite sides of the world should be fine!

    Juniper - I had DH not wanting to tell anyone our news til after the 12wk scan (his family included). When we told his parents, we asked them not to tell anyone for a little while, as we still had some people we wanted to tell personally. We gave them permission to tell 2 of their friends after a few days, and that satisfied their urgent need to tell someone! Maybe that could be an option for DH? Let them tell one or two people you're not going to speak to personally? Just a suggestion.

    MaggiePie - I hear you on the baby brain! Forgetting stuff and having rather a lot of vague moments. Had my worst one so far - I just knocked my passenger wing mirror off today, after getting too close to a power pole while parking Dunno how I'm going to explain that one to DH...

    Brunette - hope you had a lovely weekend away at your friends wedding / mini-babymoon!

    Jaki80 - best of luck for your scan tomorrow. you see a lovely heartbeat!

    Hi to all that I've missed, hope you're all travelling well!

    AFM - Just got back from a fantastic long weekend up in the Hunter Valley, celebrating our 2nd anniversary. DH was delighted with himself, having a chauffer to drive him around to all the wineries to do wine tasting. I was delighted with waking up every morning without a hangover I'm going through food withdrawals now though, and am so depressed at the prospect of having to cook dinner, after having not had to do it for 3 days... I did surprise myself with how much food I put away on the weekend, my appetite has definitely increased. I've never been able to eat as much as I can now! Uh-oh...

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    Lairdoz, I'm glad you've got your plan in place. That is such a hard one. How strange that your sister chose exactly the same name. I can totally understand you being p***ed off. God, I would be. Actually, my younger bro's wife is pregnant, due a week or two before me (conceived easily) and yes, actually, he told us their names straight away (he is a sensitive one, I'm lucky) and thank god, they were ... well, hilariously different to the ones we'd had our hearts set on for a while now (my bro and his wife are performers, and me and my DH are basically public servants, kinda different personalities!). But still, these names are kind of so way out that we still worry, what if they change their minds once the baby arrives and choose one of "our" names. You can also feel like you're being an "idiot" because thank god, you're having a baby and what's in a name, and so forth. But I think names are really special and they're for life, so I think they're really important too. Plus it's that tiny bit of "confidence" or "attachment" that we can have, having had such a rough time with TTC, and sometimes it's hard to know what else to hold on to. Maybe that's a bit melodramatic. I'm exhausted. I just dropped a beef casserole on the kitchen floor and thus simultaneously missed out on lunch, and had to clean for half an hour!

    Juniper, actually we were both like that at first, because my mum was being kind of pushy, plus she was telling everyone about my brother's impending "fatherhood" (which sounds ridiculous to me, because he's younger, but then I kind of forget my own age!), and it was kind of galling, somehow. If anything, I was the most resistant one. And my DH did say that exact thing "it's our news" but then we decided we just couldn't be a**ed phoning everyone, and also my cousin said something, which just made things seem really simple. He said "Well, it's nice for the grannies to have a bit of a role". And I thought, oh, yes, hang on, my mum really loves us and she's just excited and not "gossiping" and this is a good way to involve her. Anyway, the deadline was today. It will be out as of now.

    And as for colds, steam inhalations are pretty good at killing germs in the sinus.

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    Lairdoz, thanks. It's good to know others do wait a bit longer than that "end of 1st trimester" milestone that so many people get caught up on. I think mum's taking it hard because she expected to be able to tell at 12 weeks. And I get really worked up about the name thing so it's not just you. As for the cold, I have no idea. I took polaramine while my nose was all blocked up and that was great for 2 whole nights and then everything changed and now I can't take anything to relieve the symptoms. If I weren't pg I'd be taking a mucolytic, but I suspect that something which thins mucous isn't a good idea right now. It does slowly seem to be improving, but it's been just over a week now.

    Leabie, good to hear you had a great weekend! My sister got married in the Hunter in Feb and it's just gorgeous. Congratulations on your anniversary! It's funny you say that about letting your parents tell two friends. I almost suggest mum could tell one friend (my BFF's mum), but then I remembered my BFF saying her mum was a blabbermouth and decided against it. Also, my BFF's brother has a habit of posting unwanted comments on my facebook profile and he still lives with his parents (I changed my settings so he can't write on my profile after one comment too many, but I know he sometimes uses his mum's profile).

    Well, DH just pulled a "Fine. Whatever." type moment. He's sick of hearing about it so she can tell who she wants. Of course, now I'm ticked off at him changing his mind just to shut me up.... Gotta love pg hormones!!

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    Worrywart, you posted while I was writing. Sorry to hear about the casserole. I don't think you're being melodramatic (unless I am too). The name we picked out has been something like a talisman for us to hold on to through 3.5 years of TTC. I even named my blog for it. It's not just some name; it's the name of our daughter. And if we only ever have boys, then it will always be the name of the daughter we never had.

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    Juniper, my mum and I nearly had a falling out because she wanted to tell all her brothers and sisters that I was PG at about the 8-week mark, and we had such a horrible start, I was diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage, had bleeding, was at home on bed rest till week 12 and was carrying twins, which is not the same as the usual milestones as those with singleton babies ie safe to tell usually at 12 weeks. But both my DH and I felt the same; ie, we didn't want the news spread to anyone other than immediate family or friends who we had chosen to tell. Now that your DH has given you the green light, are you doing the same with your mum and letting her tell people? I think it's a personal decision and if you and DH decide not to spread the news, you should both be respected in your wishes.

    Lairdoz, sorry to hear you're still feeling sick. Unfortunately, I think you've just got to let a cold run its course. Plenty of sleep, plenty of fluids. Not sure about what meds you can take. When I was sick with a cold I just took some Panadol because I was unsure if anything else was safe. Re the name issue, try not to get too worked up about it yet because you don't yet know if you're having a boy. If you are, then my advice would be if you and DH still feel strongly about the name (and seeing as how your sister has lived O/S for so long and you're not in regular contact) then go for it. I am getting stuck on which names to choose. It is one of the biggest decisions you can make - I think, at least - to decide on a name for your child.


    Leabie, our babymoon and friend's wedding was great, although sooooo cold. I love the Hunter Valley. How cool that you got chauffered around to the different wineries. Good to hear your appetite has returned and MS has been banished!

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    Goodness me it's been like Clapham Junction in here today!!

    Lairdoz - without a doubt, if you and your sister are not close particularly and live so far away (so unlikely the cousins will be v. close) you use the name you & DH want. It is a name, it is an identity, but the little individuals will be just that, individual and it does not matter if they are named the same. Even if a close person to me named a child the name we'd chosen I would ask if it was ok out of courtesy, but I don't see a problem. It's not like there aren't others in the world with that name....unless it's someone like Jordan & Peter Andre's daughter 'Princess Tiami' (who I saw today at the airport by the way!! - gorgeous head of blonde curls) - that whole paragraph seems v. difficult to read/understand, but I know what I mean!! Lairdoz, go for what you want!

    Juniper - as with everything, our DHs seem to react differently to us. My DH used the exact phrase 'our news' with me also. I seem to be different to a lot of folk cos, having had various rounds of IVF and FET, and had a variety of results inc. a m/c, DH thinks I would be really cautious about telling anyone. However I'm the opposite. I explained that people will find out after the event if things go wrong - I found I could go lick my wounds and face folk when I was ready, but at least they knew why I was off the scene. Sooo therefore, I'm happy to tell people because I'm excited, and have a more positive outlook this time. Plus I've found people's well wishes or happiness at the news is infectious and makes me feel better too, if I am feeling a little worrisome that day.

    A couple of people at my work know - which helps when I have to disappear to stuff a sandwich in my gob quickly!, and some close friends. My parents have been overseas for almost 3 months and arrive home Thursday. I'm desperate to tell them, but DH and I came to agreement only after the 7 week scan. He's just really uncomfortable people knowing yet. Firstly because it's so early, but secondly he said it's cos nothing has been private about this journey and he wanted it to just be our secret. We've agreed that he can tell 'his people' whenever he wants...... that could be when I'm 9 months, because apparently he could wait that long!!!!!!!!!!???

    Leabie, thanks for the welcome!! Hunter valley eh?! Swish romantic getaway!! Open fire?? Big spa bath?? can you go in a spa bath? lovely!! My hubby and I are off to Byron Bay for a night later in the month to use his birthday accommodation voucher, and I've been wanting to go to the Bangalow Markets forever, so can't wait.

    AFM - well this nausea loves to hang around pretty much most of the day. I do feel v. lucky that I'm not physically sick though, cos obviously you're trying to win a losing battle of getting nutrients in ya. Does anyone else have a windy problem right now??? and I don't mean the usual August winds......when my dog has a bone, she gets windy. To the point she has to get up and move to the other side of the room!! I'm starting to want to do that (in my own company, naturally I try and control it around everyone else!) What's causing this?? I'll tell you, having a heightened sense of smell doesn't flippin' help the situation either!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    It's been lights out at 9.30pm in our house......that's unheard of normally. It's a couple of Dexter episodes normally, but I'm struggling. Today I got home from work and was in bed 3 minutes later for a snooze. All great signs - well the nausea and tiredness are, the wind is a bi-product - literally! ;-)

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