Why do LTTTCers seem to prefer a c/s?

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Firstly I'm not big on ridiculing someone's choices. I don't think anyone in this thread has done that. I suggest that everyone read the entire thread and everyone contributions before commenting.

Because I think using emotive words like 'forcing women' or 'making women feel like they're wrong' or 'ridiculing' actually starts to derail legitimate discussions like these. We are talking about why it is LTTTCers believe a c/s is safer, when stats and evidence show that a VB is safer. This is NOT a c/s vs VB debate, and while I don't like modding threads that I am contributing personal opinions to, I will make this point very clear - I don't believe questioning if the system, or the difficulties of the LTTTC journey, has let us as women down or failed us in some way constitutes persecuting people's choices, because no one has done that.

In fact I consider myself an IVF advocate, in that I believe women with fertility issues should be informed (and not kept in the dark by their clinics), they should feel empowered (at a time when they feel so powerless) and they should be given the support to heal themselves.

This is an extension of that - which is why I'm so interested in knowing what it is that changes in a woman's psyche when she endures the pain of LTTTC that she then makes decisions that may in fact put her and her child are more risk (like choosing a c/s without medical reason). It's not pro-VB to say a c/s carries more risk, it's a simple fact.

It doesn't make sense - LTTTCer are some of the most cautious pregnant women I've known. An IVF veteran tends to be the one who reads up so much that they know almost as much about IVF and the related technologies as a scientist. They make important, complex decisions about their treatment, yet once pregnant, this need to educate themselves seem to desert them. I just want to know why.

I'm typing fast because I had dinner on the fire, but hope I have gotten my point across. Before you comment, please read the whole thread and focus on the issue, and please don't make this a c/s vs VB debate.