Are you telling people the gender?

[FabFiona]

We know what we are having and knew we would be hopeless on keeping it a secret so decided not to bother trying. When we were first pregnant I was uber paranoid about telling people before 12 weeks, but husband was so excited he couldn't help himself. During the 11th week I got a 'congratulations' email from a mutual friend. When I asked him how he knew, he said he had overheard husband in the (only) coffee place at work talking about it! Hopeless! Therefore I knew that once we found out gender keeping it a secret would not be an option.

However we are definitely keeping the name secret. That was our deal to ourselves and both are still going strong.

[berrme]

We had fake names that we told people if they asked. It was Balthazhar for a boy and Bathsheba for a girl. They gave up asking after that.

[*EJ*]

With DS1 we didn't know what we were having.

With DS2 we initially thought we wouldn't find out again. So prior to 20 week scan this was what we told people if they asked. Then on our way to the scan we both decided we'd find out but we'd keep it to ourselves. Most people didn't ask because they thought we weren't finding out anyway and if they did i would say we didn't find out. I didn't think of it as lying to them, we just made the choice to not tell people. In the end i told a few close friends anyway but they all kept it very quiet. Even after the birth we never let on that we knew what we were having.

We also kept our names to ourselves both times.

Knowing how i felt during pregnancy with knowing/not knowing gender & names i actually don't ask people these questions (maybe close friends or family yes). It's not because i'm rude and don't care it's because i feel it's their business. I'm happy to find out when the baby is born.

As for strangers i often told people we knew but no one else did.

I don't think i thought about pro's and con's as such, the decision to find out what we were having was for us and no one else. I suppose a con is knowing that you'll never slip up and accidently say he or she somewhere along the line

We decided to find out but not tell as it was nice just us knowing the gender of our baby.

Don't think of it as lying to people, if you make a decision with your husband to not tell the gender of your baby that's ok. Everyone will know soon enough

Enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy

[HollyC]

I'm in an awkward situation. We didn't find out last time and weren't going to this time. We accidentally found out due to all the genetic testing we had done. I know what XX and XY mean and it was written on some forms and a doctor mentioned it as well.

So now we know.

I was telling people that we asked not to know, which is true. But then DH told people that we know, but hasn't said what it is. I'm really not comfortable with the situation that we are now in.

It is kind of nice knowing, but it is hard to keep it a secret.

[Bathsheba]

We had fake names that we told people if they asked. It was Balthazhar for a boy and Bathsheba for a girl. They gave up asking after that.

ROFL well I'm quite flattered

[berrme]

ROFL well I'm quite flattered

Is Bathsheba your real name or a BB name? There aren't too many around. My surname is Berry, I selected my fake names because they sounded quite silly with that.

[Bathsheba]

Bathsheba is my online name but it might as well be my real one as so many people call me by that name IRL now How funny.... I have a virtual pet called Sheba Berry on another site! She is a very cute squirrel type creature LOL

[*TripleJ*]

well i know i always have to find out but we might keep it secret dunno yet im not pg yet but we have picked a name for a future girl but some ppl already know it

[miskilla]

We're still up in the air with deciding if we should find out, but I recon we will end up doing it. 3weeks to decide! If we do find out we will definately tell everyone as we are having a baby shower a bit later on, and I really dont want a bunch of lemon or mint coloured things!!!