With DD1 and DD2 we found out and let it be known they were girls. We stayed quiet on the names though. People got cluey about what was shortlisted and had no qualms in telling us they were not the greatest names. Then with #3, DS, everyone was all, "oh, finally a boy!" 1. What? 2. Finally? He's only the 3rd! It's not like he's the first among 213 girls! and 3. So what if he was a girl instead??? I don't know anyone with 3 daughters who regrets what they ended up with! I don't know anyone in general who regrets the gender of their children, full stop. We're now having #4 who is another DS, so we have DD, DD, DS and DS. EVERYONE says, "That's nice and symmetrical. You're lucky". Sigh. We're lucky, generally, not at all because of gender. Lucky that we're blessed with a 4th so far healthy baby.
What really gets my goat is people's inflicted opinions on names. I have never once told someone the name they choose is awful, even if I do think it is. I don't have a bloody right to! Yet, so many people tell me my names are awful/bland/common/out of date, etc. I've never once asked someone what they think of the names we choose because I don't really give two hoots, yet everyone has an opinion that simply MUST be given to me.
... And don't start me on people touching my stomach! I could seriously end up in court on assault charges with the next person who touches me!
Oh Gawd the name thing. I have purposely kept the name of our daughter from my father and mother in law. Everybody else knows but them. Because I couldn't put up with the smirks and eye rolls from the mother in law when we suggested boy names. Now that it's a girl she has no idea whatsoever and I'm glad cos it's killing her not knowing
we are going to tell our family, three reasons - cause my sis is preggers too, so we want to pick names and "have dibbs first" even though I am due after her and so family can buy things and cause we just want to know! lol!
We started telling ppl when they asked if we knew "yes, but we're keeping it a secret" - but then I discovered that some people don't take the hint and their next questions is "so what is it"? What part of secret do they not get? Grrr! Although I have to admit that I don't think they're trying to be rude - they're just excited. But it gets really awkward then when I dig my heels in and won't tell them. So I've decided it's much better just to tell people "it's a surprise". Technically I'm not lying, because it IS a surprise - just not to us!
And if ppl ask about names, I just laugh and say we've got some in mind, but we'll probably change our minds later (although not likely as we both really like what we've chosen).
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