With DD we knew the sex but wanted it to be a surprise for everyone, so we said "yes, we know but we want to keep it a secret". By the 9th month all anyone was asking us was "is it a boy or a girl?". My MIL, who is a midwife was poring over the US dvd for evidence, and my mum kept ringing up saying "i'm looking at blankets/I'm painting a toybox/there are sheets on special - what colour do you want??"" actually thinking that I'd say pink or blue!!!
Also, DH's Nana was dying of leukemia during the PG so DH told her a few days before she died that we were having a girl. In the last few hours of her life her whole family were around her bed and she kept saying "look after my beautiful great grand daughter when she comes". But she was so sick and on so much morphine that no one knew if she was delirious or speaking the truth, so everyone was really confused. People were asking me at the funeral if she had known the gender!!
So, because our families clearly can't stand having secrets and the suspense was too much for them to stand (and me to deal with), this time round we are doing the little white lie and saying we haven't found out, even though we know the gender 100% (CVS test). Still doesn't stop them asking everytime they call us though!
Some people when they ask me if I know what I'm having give me the poops, I don't know why I guess its the ones who don't have children. One of my managers said (after I told her I was expecting a girl) 'Oh gawd I reckon I'd have a nervous breakdown if I had a girl' I just looked at her thinking 'what? what is wrong with you!?'. She has no children and isn't really interested in having them either. And can be a bit rude if I'm not feeling well at work.
But when the 'mothers' at work ask me I get a big hug, or a huge beaming smile or they get all excited. Like I do when I hear a friend has found out the sex and is expecting either.
I also have this issue with the belly rubbing. I don't mind some people doing it, but others I snap at 'My boobs have grown too, do you wanna rub them?' 'Are you going to ask me first next time or just grope whenever you see my stomach?' I don't know I just get different feelings for certain people.
Some people when they ask me what I'm having I'll say 'Yes, found out last week, it's a kitten'
But yes this time I am expecting a little pink bundle
I am with you on the rubbing belly thing - it hasnlt happened to me yet, but I envisage it to be not too far away. There is one guy at work who has 4 kids and so far, her has been all over every mummy-to-be like a rash. Not only does he go in for the rub, he really gropes the belly, then starts asking about colostrum and vaginal secretions. So far, he doesn't know I'm preggers - I'm dreading him finding out!
Oh gawd! Really? That's a little uncomfortable! I just found out on Sunday a girl I work with is also pregnant...3 days behind me and she never told anyone! Now it makes sense why she was asking me how I cope with being tired and unpaid maternity leave.
I only have one bloke at work that rubs or pokes my belly button and a young trainee who is only 15 I don't mind these two as I work close with them and know them well.
I have to tell hubby off sometimes because he will rip my tshirt up at any god given moment to show his friends and I have to glance at my bikini line in that split second to check nothing is hanging out the top. I told him I can't trim as much or as well anymore and it's embarressing, he's got the picture now....almost lol
Yes! I told everybody who would listen when I first found out that I was having a girl even the bus driver who drove me home that day!
I think it's good because then I can plan names, furniture and clothes that way. I know some families don't want to know until the child is born but I'm not a real traditionalist myself.
With DD1 and DD2 we found out and let it be known they were girls. We stayed quiet on the names though. People got cluey about what was shortlisted and had no qualms in telling us they were not the greatest names. Then with #3, DS, everyone was all, "oh, finally a boy!" 1. What? 2. Finally? He's only the 3rd! It's not like he's the first among 213 girls! and 3. So what if he was a girl instead??? I don't know anyone with 3 daughters who regrets what they ended up with! I don't know anyone in general who regrets the gender of their children, full stop. We're now having #4 who is another DS, so we have DD, DD, DS and DS. EVERYONE says, "That's nice and symmetrical. You're lucky". Sigh. We're lucky, generally, not at all because of gender. Lucky that we're blessed with a 4th so far healthy baby.
What really gets my goat is people's inflicted opinions on names. I have never once told someone the name they choose is awful, even if I do think it is. I don't have a bloody right to! Yet, so many people tell me my names are awful/bland/common/out of date, etc. I've never once asked someone what they think of the names we choose because I don't really give two hoots, yet everyone has an opinion that simply MUST be given to me.
... And don't start me on people touching my stomach! I could seriously end up in court on assault charges with the next person who touches me!
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